"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Losing my frame...

Htienvu

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After seeing this girl for about a month, playing it cool, keeping my frame I can see that I am starting to lose it. The infatuation feeling that I kept so in checked is starting to creep into me. I am thinking about her more, analyzing our interactions more and starting to fantasies about the future more. All this makes me want to put her on the pedestal and treat her like the prize. What I should do is relax and enjoy the ride.

I guess this is the period where a lot of guys fall into the trap and lose their frame, in turn messes up the "relationship" then wondering why they're dumped.

I am glad this site is here, thr materials are here, you guys are here to put me straight when I am slipping.

Cheers SS and everyone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Serg897

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This just happened to me and I lost the girl after about a month. Be very mindful of your emotions and keep your distance.
 

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hey man, you are recognizing whats happening and so you can at least try to right your path. Last time that happened to me i did not even know what was going on, i just let my mind sink to afc depths of hell. haha. and then it was far too late.
 

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all it is is you building the woman up in your mind to be more than she is...which is just a another human that goes to the toilet like the rest of us.
 

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Htienvu said:
After seeing this girl for about a month, playing it cool, keeping my frame I can see that I am starting to lose it. The infatuation feeling that I kept so in checked is starting to creep into me. I am thinking about her more, analyzing our interactions more and starting to fantasies about the future more. All this makes me want to put her on the pedestal and treat her like the prize. What I should do is relax and enjoy the ride.

I guess this is the period where a lot of guys fall into the trap and lose their frame, in turn messes up the "relationship" then wondering why they're dumped.

I am glad this site is here, thr materials are here, you guys are here to put me straight when I am slipping.

Cheers SS and everyone.
ive been through this.
you gotta constantly remind yourself how she was attracted to you in the first place. it wasn't because of analysis, putting her on pedestal or making her the prize.
you attracted her because you were laid back. that's the person she was attracted to. even if you're infatuated keep it in check. doesn't mean you dont express your feelings but don't verbalize them or smother her with attention. all the best
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

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