dj ben2
Senior Don Juan
how do i do it with out eating too less for muscle growth and eating too much to put fat on?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You obviously have a lot to learn.donjuanjovi said:Take steroids.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This isn't strictly true, even in a calorie deficit you can gain muscle if protein intake is sufficient (many precontest bodybuilders can still gain muscle going into a show, natural or enhanced) and the right demands are being placed on the body (growth-inducing training). Likewise you can lose fat while being in a surplus. It's all to do with nutrient timing and partitioning.md3sign said:Reason being is that you primarily lose fat (or muscle) on a calorie deficit, and gain muscle (or fat) on a calorie surplus.
Good plan. Congrats on your gains.md3sign said:I agree. Overall it is possible, just difficult. And for skinny beginners a solid bulk cycle is preferable. Bulking/cutting isn't something I would recommend long term because like you said it's hard on the body, but an initial cycle or two when you first start serious training is a good idea.
I bulked up a lot and put on more fat than I wanted to, so now I'm slowing down a bit and concentrating slowly putting on muscle mass while maintaining my BF. Come spring I'll cut for the summer and then slowly continue packing on mass (at that point ~1-2lbs/month) as a long term solution.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I was referring to donjuanjovi's implication that a body recomposition (lose fat, gain muscle simultaneously) was only possible when using steroids.dj ben2 said:yea i do have a LOT to learn but im still young =D
It breaks stuff down for fuel.The metabolic breakdown of complex molecules into simpler ones, often resulting in a release of energy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
carbs before and after your workout.dj ben2 said:get a job who u talking to ? and if im on a low carb eating plan its best if i have carbs b4 i work out ?
Warboss Alex said:carbs before and after your workout.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.