dj ben2
Senior Don Juan
how do i do it with out eating too less for muscle growth and eating too much to put fat on?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You obviously have a lot to learn.donjuanjovi said:Take steroids.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This isn't strictly true, even in a calorie deficit you can gain muscle if protein intake is sufficient (many precontest bodybuilders can still gain muscle going into a show, natural or enhanced) and the right demands are being placed on the body (growth-inducing training). Likewise you can lose fat while being in a surplus. It's all to do with nutrient timing and partitioning.md3sign said:Reason being is that you primarily lose fat (or muscle) on a calorie deficit, and gain muscle (or fat) on a calorie surplus.
Good plan. Congrats on your gains.md3sign said:I agree. Overall it is possible, just difficult. And for skinny beginners a solid bulk cycle is preferable. Bulking/cutting isn't something I would recommend long term because like you said it's hard on the body, but an initial cycle or two when you first start serious training is a good idea.
I bulked up a lot and put on more fat than I wanted to, so now I'm slowing down a bit and concentrating slowly putting on muscle mass while maintaining my BF. Come spring I'll cut for the summer and then slowly continue packing on mass (at that point ~1-2lbs/month) as a long term solution.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I was referring to donjuanjovi's implication that a body recomposition (lose fat, gain muscle simultaneously) was only possible when using steroids.dj ben2 said:yea i do have a LOT to learn but im still young =D
It breaks stuff down for fuel.The metabolic breakdown of complex molecules into simpler ones, often resulting in a release of energy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
carbs before and after your workout.dj ben2 said:get a job who u talking to ? and if im on a low carb eating plan its best if i have carbs b4 i work out ?
Warboss Alex said:carbs before and after your workout.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.