"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Loose Lips Sinked My Ship

GuitarOnFire

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I got a girl's co-worker pissed off by accident and I think she started to badmouth me and ruin my reputation there. (Very few people say hello anymore, although the co-worker has started to again.) I said something weird and now the girl I liked might be avoiding me.

Should I just next her and see if she changes her mind?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You "sunk the ship." Just because you ignore her it doesn't mean the "ship" will automatically repair itself. How about confronting her about it and apologize for what you did. If she accepts, great! Problem solved. If she rejects your apology, just say Okay, and move on.

Even in the Christian Bible, it says that being nice to your enemies will pour "hot coals on their heads."

What it means: If you are nice to your enemies (nice as in not returning negativity to them) when they criticize you, you basically make them feel awkward about being a bunch of punks.
 

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Appologizing rarely accomplishes anything. You just have the be the better man and take the high road. Say Hi to them and be nice to them. It's hard to stay mad at someone who's being nice to you.
 

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Right. People just see if you will apoligize, to see where they stand with you.

What would be great is if you can get her to apoligize for being a b*tch to you.
 

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I'm taking the smiling and being generally indifferent to whatever happened route. If people want to start saying hello, I have nothing against that.

I refuse to apologize when I didn't mean to ignore her. She knows this, and by ignoring me she hasn't come to terms with her own feelings yet.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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watd u say that weirded her out?lol
 

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I approached her and told her that I forgot to say 'hi' to her friend, then walked away.

Yes, it was weird, but I wanted to let her know that I wasn't purposely ignoring her friend. It didn't seem to help at all.
 

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lyrics from an ac/dc song :p
 
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