"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Loose Lips Sinked My Ship

GuitarOnFire

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I got a girl's co-worker pissed off by accident and I think she started to badmouth me and ruin my reputation there. (Very few people say hello anymore, although the co-worker has started to again.) I said something weird and now the girl I liked might be avoiding me.

Should I just next her and see if she changes her mind?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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You "sunk the ship." Just because you ignore her it doesn't mean the "ship" will automatically repair itself. How about confronting her about it and apologize for what you did. If she accepts, great! Problem solved. If she rejects your apology, just say Okay, and move on.

Even in the Christian Bible, it says that being nice to your enemies will pour "hot coals on their heads."

What it means: If you are nice to your enemies (nice as in not returning negativity to them) when they criticize you, you basically make them feel awkward about being a bunch of punks.
 

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Appologizing rarely accomplishes anything. You just have the be the better man and take the high road. Say Hi to them and be nice to them. It's hard to stay mad at someone who's being nice to you.
 

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Right. People just see if you will apoligize, to see where they stand with you.

What would be great is if you can get her to apoligize for being a b*tch to you.
 

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I'm taking the smiling and being generally indifferent to whatever happened route. If people want to start saying hello, I have nothing against that.

I refuse to apologize when I didn't mean to ignore her. She knows this, and by ignoring me she hasn't come to terms with her own feelings yet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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watd u say that weirded her out?lol
 

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I approached her and told her that I forgot to say 'hi' to her friend, then walked away.

Yes, it was weird, but I wanted to let her know that I wasn't purposely ignoring her friend. It didn't seem to help at all.
 

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lyrics from an ac/dc song :p
 
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