"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Loose Lips Sinked My Ship

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I got a girl's co-worker pissed off by accident and I think she started to badmouth me and ruin my reputation there. (Very few people say hello anymore, although the co-worker has started to again.) I said something weird and now the girl I liked might be avoiding me.

Should I just next her and see if she changes her mind?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You "sunk the ship." Just because you ignore her it doesn't mean the "ship" will automatically repair itself. How about confronting her about it and apologize for what you did. If she accepts, great! Problem solved. If she rejects your apology, just say Okay, and move on.

Even in the Christian Bible, it says that being nice to your enemies will pour "hot coals on their heads."

What it means: If you are nice to your enemies (nice as in not returning negativity to them) when they criticize you, you basically make them feel awkward about being a bunch of punks.
 

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Appologizing rarely accomplishes anything. You just have the be the better man and take the high road. Say Hi to them and be nice to them. It's hard to stay mad at someone who's being nice to you.
 

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Right. People just see if you will apoligize, to see where they stand with you.

What would be great is if you can get her to apoligize for being a b*tch to you.
 

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I'm taking the smiling and being generally indifferent to whatever happened route. If people want to start saying hello, I have nothing against that.

I refuse to apologize when I didn't mean to ignore her. She knows this, and by ignoring me she hasn't come to terms with her own feelings yet.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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watd u say that weirded her out?lol
 

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I approached her and told her that I forgot to say 'hi' to her friend, then walked away.

Yes, it was weird, but I wanted to let her know that I wasn't purposely ignoring her friend. It didn't seem to help at all.
 

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lyrics from an ac/dc song :p
 
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