"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Looks Truly Do Not Matter

evesman

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It's your frame of mind that matters. It's unbelievable how many opportunities slip IF you assume that looks, money, status, etc. are preventing you from dating who you want. That negative mindset of looking for excuses for why you are not with who you want to be is what is most detrimental, not the factors you are worried. The worry is the blockade.

For instance, in high school, random girls in my classes would talk to me all the time, tease me, and flirt with me, but I HAD NO IDEA that's what they were doing. It was my frame of mind which proved the most significant hindrance.

Even throughout college and afterwards, I could not get it through my thick skull that pretty and even hot girls wanted to date guys who were not celebrities!

My recommendation is to stop filling your mind with brainwashing garbage about what's attractive and what's not and actually get out there and ASSUME you are attractive. This confidence is what is attractive.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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IKO69

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While I think a person's mind/thoughts effects how successful they are in dating and I have seen couples were I couldn't believe the female was with the male because she was so much better looking than him...I wouldn't say looks don't matter...If these women found the guys to be physically unattractive they wouldn't be with them. I think it just depends on female and what her preferences are.

I guess the listen here is don't discount your chances because of your looks because you never know.
 

Connor99

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I see ugly guys with hot chicks all the time lol and the drive a **** box and clearly dont have much money
 
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