"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Looks Truly Do Not Matter

evesman

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It's your frame of mind that matters. It's unbelievable how many opportunities slip IF you assume that looks, money, status, etc. are preventing you from dating who you want. That negative mindset of looking for excuses for why you are not with who you want to be is what is most detrimental, not the factors you are worried. The worry is the blockade.

For instance, in high school, random girls in my classes would talk to me all the time, tease me, and flirt with me, but I HAD NO IDEA that's what they were doing. It was my frame of mind which proved the most significant hindrance.

Even throughout college and afterwards, I could not get it through my thick skull that pretty and even hot girls wanted to date guys who were not celebrities!

My recommendation is to stop filling your mind with brainwashing garbage about what's attractive and what's not and actually get out there and ASSUME you are attractive. This confidence is what is attractive.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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IKO69

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While I think a person's mind/thoughts effects how successful they are in dating and I have seen couples were I couldn't believe the female was with the male because she was so much better looking than him...I wouldn't say looks don't matter...If these women found the guys to be physically unattractive they wouldn't be with them. I think it just depends on female and what her preferences are.

I guess the listen here is don't discount your chances because of your looks because you never know.
 

Connor99

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I see ugly guys with hot chicks all the time lol and the drive a **** box and clearly dont have much money
 
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