Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

Looks matter, a lot.

Focal core

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2017
Messages
1,537
Reaction score
1,202
Age
43
Facts brotha. I am starting to realize that people are attracted to what they are. You didn't have real compatibility with most of the girls that rejected you. They could feel it but we tried to deny it. We were blinded because we wanted to smash. Its rare to be rejected by girls that you genuinely connect with. I was never friend zoned with girls that were mirror compliments to my personality. Some exceptions include girls that are fighting their attraction to you based on differences in race and religion. Even those girls still crave your presence.

This is a concept that has taken 35 yrs to understand. When two people meet there is an energy of compatibility that they may exude. This is what leads to her attraction. She sees herself in you. She wants to be you essentially. This is why she wants your genetic material inside her body. Ghetto trash girls like intimidating thugs because they want to be intimidating thugs. Girls that like azzholes secretly want to be azzholes.

An intelligent introspective guy will most of the time smash an intelligent introspective girl. This is because she will be a sapiosexual.
Fact 200%.. For example myself could know whether the girl were same level as me within seconds
 

Pandora

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 11, 2008
Messages
3,205
Reaction score
3,112
Age
38
Fact 200%.. For example myself could know whether the girl were same level as me within seconds
Seconds bro. Its instant. You guys feel comfortable. No awkwardness. Its a weird familiarity ( not to sound like a simp). These days I dont even pursue the girl unless that vibe is present. If that vibe is present you won't have to try hard. It will be effortless.
 

Focal core

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2017
Messages
1,537
Reaction score
1,202
Age
43
Seconds bro. Its instant. You guys feel comfortable. No awkwardness. Its a weird familiarity ( not to sound like a simp). These days I dont even pursue the girl unless that vibe is present. If that vibe is present you won't have to try hard. It will be effortless.
None of the awkwardness there.. Pure fun, pure attraction .. Reciprocity, amazing chemistry, Chasing on each other butt looking for some missing hair.. .. Basically you cant get enough of each other.
 

B80

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 18, 2017
Messages
970
Reaction score
699
Facts brotha. I am starting to realize that people are attracted to what they are. You didn't have real compatibility with most of the girls that rejected you. They could feel it but we tried to deny it. We were blinded because we wanted to smash. Its rare to be rejected by girls that you genuinely connect with. I was never friend zoned with girls that were mirror compliments to my personality. Some exceptions include girls that are fighting their attraction to you based on differences in race and religion. Even those girls still crave your presence.

This is a concept that has taken 35 yrs to understand. When two people meet there is an energy of compatibility that they may exude. This is what leads to her attraction. She sees herself in you. She wants to be you essentially. This is why she wants your genetic material inside her body. Ghetto trash girls like intimidating thugs because they want to be intimidating thugs. Girls that like azzholes secretly want to be azzholes.

An intelligent introspective guy will most of the time smash an intelligent introspective girl. This is because she will be a sapiosexual.
Indeed. Things I've noticed now is these similarities as well with girl I'm seeing. Similar education level, driven career/business wise, socioeconomic family back grounds/areas we were raised in, both value fitness but with wild sides where we like big nights out from time to time, both have a kid of similar ages, roughly similar outlook on many things in life etc. Just clicked from day 1.

Whereas when I was briefly seeing a highly academic head mistress, just felt totally out of sync from the beginning.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 24, 2017
Messages
6,105
Reaction score
4,853
Age
33
I caught a tail end of a podcast. Cute girl was going on a prerequisite. What she wants from a man from aesthetics, height, resources. when asked what she brings, after the kitty, she had no value to offer.

Fellas need to reframe. A miniscule amount of girls will get with your program or #next! No exception. Let's be cereal for a second. the hottest young girl won the genetic lottery. The intelligent ones (and I say intelligent loosely cause looks doesn't often equate to intelligence or effort) workout. Most are the analogy for the frog in the pot on the burner. Slow simmer. real talk, she's a donut and broken condom away from expired.

Yes. If Dicaprio with looks, rich, status it's life on easy mode. Not in the cards for most men. Get the bag. Lift. Get girls. The biggest consequences of looks obsession is the high probability of inaction. Control the controllable. Play your hand. Dhv just cause. Looks max but note the valueless elements of ROI in exchange for the kitty. My mate is a HENRY (HIGH EARNER NOT YET RICH ). He can approach and date but the cost doesn't work for him. He gladly pays for her to go. Then goes to get more money. This isn't a good idea but I get it.

Modern day women are valueless outside the kitty. It dawns on me how much time he saves on that trajectory but I think it comes with other problems. I am curious if men approached all women as if she was a escort with a price tag until proven otherwise. Every woman comes with a price be it time or money. The ROI is getting lower and lower.
 

Focal core

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2017
Messages
1,537
Reaction score
1,202
Age
43
Indeed. Things I've noticed now is these similarities as well with girl I'm seeing. Similar education level, driven career/business wise, socioeconomic family back grounds/areas we were raised in, both value fitness but with wild sides where we like big nights out from time to time, both have a kid of similar ages, roughly similar outlook on many things in life etc. Just clicked from day 1.

Whereas when I was briefly seeing a highly academic head mistress, just felt totally out of sync from the beginning.
What you describe basically are having a same goals as your other colleagues and lots of people were doing.. Dont confuse them as having same emotional level.

Ever heard of people change all the time? Its emotional growth and an essential part of our life, being emotionally healthy and keeping priority towards your own needs wellbeing, looking deep down of your flaws, resolving your childhood traumas, are key to emotional growth..

If you can stay being alone and happy with rhe company of yourself for quite sometime, able to have a luxury time of your own and doing growth work at the same time, archiving what isnt possible when you have other company beside yourself, i would say youre a god of yourself.. Nothing will be obstacles in your line route of pursuit.
 

OldComeBacker

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2020
Messages
82
Reaction score
100
Age
44
Can you quote any member on here, who is average looks, who is succeeding with online dating right now?

I've noted @EyeBRollin is Black and short and bald and is succeeding with meeting women online, but not too frequently. I'll throw that in because I'm keeping tabs. Do you know anyone else to add to that?
What is the definition of "success"? I certainly have in the past, but the game has changed since most of my success was pre-Tinder (ie pre-app OLD). So I can't include myself in that.

Right now I get messages and likes but I'm not actively using them. I keep my free accounts but I'm not engaging and going for meetups. I'm sure if I responded to messages I could. I don't know if your idea of OLD success requires a certain looks level and date/bang frequency or what. But I'm thinking just based on the activity I still get passively that average guys at least aren't incel-tier if they have any social skills.
 

B80

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 18, 2017
Messages
970
Reaction score
699
nothing ground-breaking here, but was chatting to the woman i've been seeing last night, she said looks count for a lot at first, but attraction goes rapidly downhill if personality is dull or unpleasant. amazingly she's still interested in me :D
 

Lordeterra

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2020
Messages
341
Reaction score
268
Age
28
To those that powerlift, dont get fat. Dont do it. You can say im doing it for myself but im going to be real, most dudes that do this are fat losers who are antisocial lol. Go for aesthetics and the shape women want. Life is short and **** as many hot ass girls as you can. **** like crazy.
 
  • Like
Reactions: B80

Lookatu

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 26, 2017
Messages
3,138
Reaction score
3,960
Age
51
Life is short and fvck as many hot ass girls as you can. Fvck like crazy.
In my younger years I would've definitely have agreed. However after having done that, I've come to the conclusion that it is more damaging in the long run to fvck many different women rather than fvcking a few women many times. Do what you want but just keep that in mind.

And you see the results of this. You see guys that have a hard time getting it up after being with the same girl for a few months. How do you think those guys are going to fare if/when they get married or get involved in a LTR?

I see fvcking many different women to being on TRT. Once you're on TRT, you can't get off it. Just like when you fvck many different women, you can never just turn it off. And it could ruin your LTR/marriage later in life as your bedroom performance will suffer.

But I also see the biological nature of us in spreading our seeds to as many women as possible. So it can be a catch 22.

Ideally, I would recommend to bang girls but keep an eye out and strive to find one quality gal while you're having fun. Just keep your eyes open and don't let a good one pass you by. My $.02
 

Lordeterra

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2020
Messages
341
Reaction score
268
Age
28
In my younger years I would've definitely have agreed. However after having done that, I've come to the conclusion that it is more damaging in the long run to fvck many different women rather than fvcking a few women many times. Do what you want but just keep that in mind.

And you see the results of this. You see guys that have a hard time getting it up after being with the same girl for a few months. How do you think those guys are going to fare if/when they get married or get involved in a LTR?

I see fvcking many different women to being on TRT. Once you're on TRT, you can't get off it. Just like when you fvck many different women, you can never just turn it off. And it could ruin your LTR/marriage later in life as your bedroom performance will suffer.

But I also see the biological nature of us in spreading our seeds to as many women as possible. So it can be a catch 22.

Ideally, I would recommend to bang girls but keep an eye out and strive to find one quality gal while you're having fun. Just keep your eyes open and don't let a good one pass you by. My $.02
of course man but im 25 and in top shape with high testoterone levels. I can definetly see myself settling down in the future but not anytime soon!
 

Lookatu

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 26, 2017
Messages
3,138
Reaction score
3,960
Age
51
of course man but im 25 and in top shape with high testoterone levels. I can definetly see myself settling down in the future but not anytime soon!
That's good and all but it has nothing to do with testosterone levels or being in shape.
It's more psychological in nature. Once you get used to variety, you will never be content with monogamy which is what LTR/Marriage entails. If you think you can fvck your LTR gf or wife for several years after having fvcked so many different girls, you'll be in for a rude awakening.

But hey if that's your thing, as a fellow man, I'd say make the best of what you got when you're younger. Who know's if you'll even live that long anyways or find a ltr/wife in this day and age. LOL
 

Lordeterra

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2020
Messages
341
Reaction score
268
Age
28
That's good and all but it has nothing to do with testosterone levels or being in shape.
It's more psychological in nature. Once you get used to variety, you will never be content with monogamy which is what LTR/Marriage entails. If you think you can fvck your LTR gf or wife for several years after having fvcked so many different girls, you'll be in for a rude awakening.

But hey if that's your thing, as a fellow man, I'd say make the best of what you got when you're younger. Who know's if you'll even live that long anyways or find a ltr/wife in this day and age. LOL
its a problem now. after ****ing a girl for more than a month i get tired of her ***** and my **** craves how a new ***** feels like. Yeah i can see how this can cause problems. What do i do?
 

Lookatu

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 26, 2017
Messages
3,138
Reaction score
3,960
Age
51
its a problem now. after ****ing a girl for more than a month i get tired of her ***** and my **** craves how a new ***** feels like. Yeah i can see how this can cause problems. What do i do?
It sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too. It's quite simple.
1. Fvck many girls as possible and live it up that way and not worry about the consequences until you get to it.
2. Hold out and try to find a girl that you're really interested in, other than sex and someone that has LTR potential.
3. Spin plates but be very active in trying to find that quality girl you can settle down with in a LTR.

I'm guessing since you're 25 and your hormones are raging, it's either going to be choice 1 or 3.

If and when you do find a quality girl that you actually like beyond sex, it's quite easy to keep having sex with them and chances of you getting tired of the same pvssy goes down.
 

Lordeterra

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2020
Messages
341
Reaction score
268
Age
28
It sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too. It's quite simple.
1. Fvck many girls as possible and live it up that way and not worry about the consequences until you get to it.
2. Hold out and try to find a girl that you're really interested in, other than sex and someone that has LTR potential.
3. Spin plates but be very active in trying to find that quality girl you can settle down with in a LTR.

I'm guessing since you're 25 and your hormones are raging, it's either going to be choice 1 or 3.

If and when you do find a quality girl that you actually like beyond sex, it's quite easy to keep having sex with them and chances of you getting tired of the same pvssy goes down.
3 it is. thanks.
 
Top