"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Looks do count

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I had a really big, long, helpful response typed up, but then I went back and read some more of the OP's posts in this thread and I just deleted it. Because I realized that he's too firmly locked into his current reality for anything we say to be of any help to him. He has literally convinced himself that looks hold the key to his happiness and he is actively shooting down everything anyone says to the contrary without stopping to really consider it. But to his credit, he has taken the first step by coming here. Which is good.

OP, I wish you the best. I invite you to stay here and soak up all the knowledge of the community. There is a lot of great stuff here. But what I hope you will come to realize is that in order to get the results you want, a change must happen inside of you. You must be willing to let go of your current mindset and your current reality in order to become what you want to become.
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
I had a really big, long, helpful response typed up, but then I went back and read some more of the OP's posts in this thread and I just deleted it. Because I realized that he's too firmly locked into his current reality for anything we say to be of any help to him. He has literally convinced himself that looks hold the key to his happiness and he is actively shooting down everything anyone says to the contrary without stopping to really consider it. But to his credit, he has taken the first step by coming here. Which is good.

OP, I wish you the best. I invite you to stay here and soak up all the knowledge of the community. There is a lot of great stuff here. But what I hope you will come to realize is that in order to get the results you want, a change must happen inside of you. You must be willing to let go of your current mindset and your current reality in order to become what you want to become.
Quoted for well-spoken truth and a good way to end this thread.
 
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Personally attacking now, huh. I thought you were above that. :nono: :nono: :nono: :moon: :moon: :moon: :up:

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Those are both fallacies (meaning what you said is not true.) The thread was doing just fine without this kind of crap clogging it up. Don't try to send the guy mixed signals with false self-limiting statements.
 

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Dude you look fine. Hit the gym, beef up a little, and when you go out, take the time to dress nice. That and a touch of personality will get you laid.

Stop making excuses, there are a lot of people uglier than you.

Looks do count to some degree, but in your case, you're just trying to find a decent excuse.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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