"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Looking into eyes, collapsing into soul

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Have you ever looked into a girl's eyes while she looked into yours and then felt something that feels supernatural, that you both feel, and you feel like you look into your soul and they look into yours?

If so, have you ever had that happen with more than one person? What were the circumstances between the different people you had this happen with?

Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yes that happens with strong mutual attraction. In general, if they hold eye contact more than 70% of the time they like you a lot. Also, if their pupils get bigger and you feel a connection, you found a good one. Remember - your pupils got bigger also.
 

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Be very careful...

"If thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee."

Nietzsche
 

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bigneil: Just to make sure we're talking about the same thing: You're talking about the point where you BOTH feel something "magical" at the same time and reach a different level of understanding, and it almost feels like the air goes whoosh (for a lack of better words?)

The reason I ask is because I had this with one girl and things didn't work out and I'm just wondering if people only have this with one person, or this level of magic clicking can happen with multiple women in one's lifetime?
 

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DanDaMan said:
bigneil: Just to make sure we're talking about the same thing: You're talking about the point where you BOTH feel something "magical" at the same time and reach a different level of understanding, and it almost feels like the air goes whoosh (for a lack of better words?)

The reason I ask is because I had this with one girl and things didn't work out and I'm just wondering if people only have this with one person, or this level of magic clicking can happen with multiple women in one's lifetime?
For what it's worth, I just got friendzoned by the first woman I've ever dated where this happened.

There were certain situations out of both of our control, however, and I'm climbing out of the trench I dug myself. A mutual friend informed me today that I need patience, though, so I'm riding it out for a while and just casually dating until the situation resolves itself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DanDaMan said:
bigneil: Just to make sure we're talking about the same thing: You're talking about the point where you BOTH feel something "magical" at the same time and reach a different level of understanding, and it almost feels like the air goes whoosh (for a lack of better words?)

The reason I ask is because I had this with one girl and things didn't work out and I'm just wondering if people only have this with one person, or this level of magic clicking can happen with multiple women in one's lifetime?
It happens with lots of women. Don't worry, she's not special.
 

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AlexDP said:
It happens with lots of women. Don't worry, she's not special.
Hallelujah, mother****er!

On to the next ***** now... :rockon:

(BTW, I wasn't really thinking of this whole concept in the magical-world sense, but more in the sense of "does something inside your psyche close up or change when you experience this with one person, that you never get to experience it with another". I guess not. Thanks!)
 

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DanDaMan said:
Hallelujah, mother****er!

On to the next ***** now... :rockon:

(BTW, I wasn't really thinking of this whole concept in the magical-world sense, but more in the sense of "does something inside your psyche close up or change when you experience this with one person, that you never get to experience it with another". I guess not. Thanks!)

I understood what you meant. It is something special and it is a wonderful moment. But it does happen with several women in your life. Also, it ultimately means very little. Crazy women are often capable of creating these bonds and moments. It's a special moment, but it also only a moment.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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AlexDP said:
Crazy women are often capable of creating these bonds and moments.
What do you mean by the crazy women being capable of doing this? More likely than normal women? Why? Lol. Kind of funny.
 

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Just means they're manipulative, they do it to either create a friendship bond or something more. It's not exclusive to something more intimate.
 

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**** manipulative women...

Thanks for all your help though fellas... Really helps!!!
 

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Tyson420 said:
Just means they're manipulative, they do it to either create a friendship bond or something more. It's not exclusive to something more intimate.
Unfortunately I have to agree with this. These chicks know what they are
doing.
 
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