"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Looking into eyes, collapsing into soul

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Have you ever looked into a girl's eyes while she looked into yours and then felt something that feels supernatural, that you both feel, and you feel like you look into your soul and they look into yours?

If so, have you ever had that happen with more than one person? What were the circumstances between the different people you had this happen with?

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yes that happens with strong mutual attraction. In general, if they hold eye contact more than 70% of the time they like you a lot. Also, if their pupils get bigger and you feel a connection, you found a good one. Remember - your pupils got bigger also.
 
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Be very careful...

"If thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee."

Nietzsche
 
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bigneil: Just to make sure we're talking about the same thing: You're talking about the point where you BOTH feel something "magical" at the same time and reach a different level of understanding, and it almost feels like the air goes whoosh (for a lack of better words?)

The reason I ask is because I had this with one girl and things didn't work out and I'm just wondering if people only have this with one person, or this level of magic clicking can happen with multiple women in one's lifetime?
 
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DanDaMan said:
bigneil: Just to make sure we're talking about the same thing: You're talking about the point where you BOTH feel something "magical" at the same time and reach a different level of understanding, and it almost feels like the air goes whoosh (for a lack of better words?)

The reason I ask is because I had this with one girl and things didn't work out and I'm just wondering if people only have this with one person, or this level of magic clicking can happen with multiple women in one's lifetime?
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For what it's worth, I just got friendzoned by the first woman I've ever dated where this happened.

There were certain situations out of both of our control, however, and I'm climbing out of the trench I dug myself. A mutual friend informed me today that I need patience, though, so I'm riding it out for a while and just casually dating until the situation resolves itself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DanDaMan said:
bigneil: Just to make sure we're talking about the same thing: You're talking about the point where you BOTH feel something "magical" at the same time and reach a different level of understanding, and it almost feels like the air goes whoosh (for a lack of better words?)

The reason I ask is because I had this with one girl and things didn't work out and I'm just wondering if people only have this with one person, or this level of magic clicking can happen with multiple women in one's lifetime?
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It happens with lots of women. Don't worry, she's not special.
 
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AlexDP said:
It happens with lots of women. Don't worry, she's not special.
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Hallelujah, mother****er!

On to the next ***** now... :rockon:

(BTW, I wasn't really thinking of this whole concept in the magical-world sense, but more in the sense of "does something inside your psyche close up or change when you experience this with one person, that you never get to experience it with another". I guess not. Thanks!)
 
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DanDaMan said:
Hallelujah, mother****er!

On to the next ***** now... :rockon:

(BTW, I wasn't really thinking of this whole concept in the magical-world sense, but more in the sense of "does something inside your psyche close up or change when you experience this with one person, that you never get to experience it with another". I guess not. Thanks!)
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I understood what you meant. It is something special and it is a wonderful moment. But it does happen with several women in your life. Also, it ultimately means very little. Crazy women are often capable of creating these bonds and moments. It's a special moment, but it also only a moment.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AlexDP said:
Crazy women are often capable of creating these bonds and moments.
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What do you mean by the crazy women being capable of doing this? More likely than normal women? Why? Lol. Kind of funny.
 
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Just means they're manipulative, they do it to either create a friendship bond or something more. It's not exclusive to something more intimate.
 
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**** manipulative women...

Thanks for all your help though fellas... Really helps!!!
 
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Tyson420 said:
Just means they're manipulative, they do it to either create a friendship bond or something more. It's not exclusive to something more intimate.
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Unfortunately I have to agree with this. These chicks know what they are
doing.
 
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