Looking for help with congruence

[thefenix]

I'm new to this forum, but I've read a bunch of articles, and it seems like a lot of people have lots of great experience and advice to offer.

I have a problem with congruence between how I think and how I conduct myself. I consider myself to be a mature man, and I "get it." I understand what is happening on every level when I talk to women and see others interacting. I give many of my friends advice for their relationships, and it tends to be right on.

However, when I am with women I just freeze up. I understand all of their cues and body language, but I just find myself at a loss. It's like I know how to act, but I always fall back into my old habits of interacting with women.

Does anyone have any advice for manning up when in the spotlight?

 

[Max Power]

What are those old habits?

 

[thefenix]

There are some small things like smiling like a doofus, not projecting my voice well, and using weak eye contact.

And then there are bigger things like being weak with my views, being a bit of a pushover, and not taking control of planning and the situation in general. I turn into a complete cliche nice guy.

 

[thefenix]

There are some small things like smiling like a doofus, not projecting my voice well, and using weak eye contact.

And then there are bigger things like being weak with my views, being a bit of a pushover, and not taking control of planning and the situation in general. I turn into a complete cliche nice guy.

 

[Last Man Standing]

To be honest with you kid - you are the only person who can change yourself - you know what is wrong - as you stated - I suggest you do the opposite of what you have been doing, considering that what you are doing is unsatisfactory - you know the answer, why not tell us!!

I'll tell you straight - start pursuing women romantically - and not for a jolly good time!!