"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Looking for an outsiders perspective on how to handle this.

Amazing chick, would prefer not to lose her.

Example of text conversation:

Her: Dont want to talk to you ever again. Unless you need help with anything.

I dont reply. 1 Hour later...

Her: But you can come to me and my place if you ever need anything...

etc etc etc with me not replying for a few hours. Ignoring her really seemed to bring things out of her.

Eventually I reply and she is basically saying that I broke her heart and is mad at me and doesn't see us getting back together. Saying that I never cared about her etc.

I feel like I'm going to get a lot of NEXT her and move along, but I wanted to see how any DJ minded people would try and turn things around?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Unsolicitedadvice22 said:
Her: Dont want to talk to you ever again. Unless you need help with anything.
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I feel like I'm going to get a lot of NEXT her and move along, but I wanted to see how any DJ minded people would try and turn things around?
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Yes you will receive that advice....and for good reason pal. A man will always be WASTING TIME trying to go after females that are not highly interested. A woman who is highly interested in you would never tell you "I never want to talk to you again"....even if she was furious.

Forget this one, but if she texts you in the future, I would not attempt to "re hash" old problems or try to explain yourself. I would immediately try to get her out on a date and act like nothing happened. Until that point(if it ever even occurs).....grant her that wish and dont speak to her.
 
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Unless there's been some bad sh!t you've put her through to merit this, this girl is textbook BPD. Drop her or end up mindfvcked and recovering like a lot of guys on this forum.
 
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Need more context. WTF happened?
 
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If a girl says "don't ever want to talk to you again" and then follows it up with "unless you need help", it means that she is very angry with you but you can still turn it around. Especially if she continues to text you. Women will say lots of **** in the heat of the moment if they're angry and it isn't necessarily to be taken seriously.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't ever try to turn it around, it'll be a huge endeavor and a huge waste of time in the end. You're better off trying to convert cheese back into milk.
 
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Her: But you can come to me and my place if you ever need anything...

Translation: But you can come to me and my place if you ever need sex...

She still wants you dude. End of. Just make sure she knows who's boss :up:
 
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