"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Looking for an outsiders perspective on how to handle this.

Amazing chick, would prefer not to lose her.

Example of text conversation:

Her: Dont want to talk to you ever again. Unless you need help with anything.

I dont reply. 1 Hour later...

Her: But you can come to me and my place if you ever need anything...

etc etc etc with me not replying for a few hours. Ignoring her really seemed to bring things out of her.

Eventually I reply and she is basically saying that I broke her heart and is mad at me and doesn't see us getting back together. Saying that I never cared about her etc.

I feel like I'm going to get a lot of NEXT her and move along, but I wanted to see how any DJ minded people would try and turn things around?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Unsolicitedadvice22 said:
Her: Dont want to talk to you ever again. Unless you need help with anything.
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I feel like I'm going to get a lot of NEXT her and move along, but I wanted to see how any DJ minded people would try and turn things around?
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Yes you will receive that advice....and for good reason pal. A man will always be WASTING TIME trying to go after females that are not highly interested. A woman who is highly interested in you would never tell you "I never want to talk to you again"....even if she was furious.

Forget this one, but if she texts you in the future, I would not attempt to "re hash" old problems or try to explain yourself. I would immediately try to get her out on a date and act like nothing happened. Until that point(if it ever even occurs).....grant her that wish and dont speak to her.
 
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Unless there's been some bad sh!t you've put her through to merit this, this girl is textbook BPD. Drop her or end up mindfvcked and recovering like a lot of guys on this forum.
 
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Need more context. WTF happened?
 
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If a girl says "don't ever want to talk to you again" and then follows it up with "unless you need help", it means that she is very angry with you but you can still turn it around. Especially if she continues to text you. Women will say lots of **** in the heat of the moment if they're angry and it isn't necessarily to be taken seriously.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't ever try to turn it around, it'll be a huge endeavor and a huge waste of time in the end. You're better off trying to convert cheese back into milk.
 
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Her: But you can come to me and my place if you ever need anything...

Translation: But you can come to me and my place if you ever need sex...

She still wants you dude. End of. Just make sure she knows who's boss :up:
 
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