MisterMike
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Any recommendations? The ones I looked at were way out of my price range.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Looking for a Dating Coach or Teacher in Philly
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
wifehunter
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Coach??? Get some cheerleaders, too!!!
MisterMike
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*claps sarcastically*
MisterMike
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Then my question is... how do I know what's causing my problems without feedback?
wifehunter
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You'll get plenty of feedback here, your own observations, and women's actions.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The failure of my most recent relationship has strangely felt liberating and empowering. I took a gamble and held my ground and the relationship may be lost, but it's sort of an experiment. I might be learning how to actually maintain things for the long term by letting go. At a minimum I walked away on my own terms. In any event, the process of randomly losing my dream girl at the height of our romance toughened me up, so it will be difficult for any woman to ever hurt me ever again.
OP - Don't pay a dating coach. Go to the best strip club and pay the hottest girl a few hundred for a paid night off, tell her to dress up and take her to the finest restaurant. It costs the same. She'll coach you indirectly, just keep her from grimacing.
MisterMike
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Honestly, a dating coach was my last resort, I was hoping to find someone who lives in the city who would show me the ropes.
BetterCallSaul
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I know I and other guys probably take a different approach and would advise against strippers, but I know Neil interacts with them regularly. With that said, and stating my own position as I just did, I have to admit this is pretty good idea for someone who needs work on their social skills with women.
(Good point - this might only work if you are big enough to be a bouncer - some of them will rob you).
I've only dealt with strippers who could convince me they were highly attracted to me, so it might be different, but personally I think they would welcome the idea. I'm amazed when some girls tell me they have never been to a nice restaurant before.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Why deal with strippers, who on average, have tons of emotional issues and are giving slob jobs for $100 in the VIP room?
What is the upside, they stop stripping, still have emotional damage and start working at fvcking McDonalds as you "fall for them"?
Sure there might be one or two out of a bundle that are halfway decent, but they are trained salespeople......who are good at taking your money. You wont find out the good one from the bad one until she has you mentally fvcked along with her.
I know several chicks who strip. Even the ones that look decent and act sort of normal have tons of emotional baggage. I dont care what anyone says, they have little to no self respect based on what they do.
No upside at all. There are tons of educated, motivated, good looking women out there to be dealing with that sh!t. IMO, strip clubs are for people wanting to just have a good time with their buddies or guys who have little confidence. Trying to buy pvssy.
What is the upside, they stop stripping, still have emotional damage and start working at fvcking McDonalds as you "fall for them"?
Sure there might be one or two out of a bundle that are halfway decent, but they are trained salespeople......who are good at taking your money. You wont find out the good one from the bad one until she has you mentally fvcked along with her.
I know several chicks who strip. Even the ones that look decent and act sort of normal have tons of emotional baggage. I dont care what anyone says, they have little to no self respect based on what they do.
No upside at all. There are tons of educated, motivated, good looking women out there to be dealing with that sh!t. IMO, strip clubs are for people wanting to just have a good time with their buddies or guys who have little confidence. Trying to buy pvssy.
SmooveMooves
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Don't get a dating coach dude.
Man sometimes I read these threads and think you guys are trapped in 2004.
Look online for normal red pill guys who live in the Philly area and try to get in with them. Don't pay some scammer $200 an hour for advice you can get for free from yourself and regular guys. Its not that serious, trust me.
Man sometimes I read these threads and think you guys are trapped in 2004.
Look online for normal red pill guys who live in the Philly area and try to get in with them. Don't pay some scammer $200 an hour for advice you can get for free from yourself and regular guys. Its not that serious, trust me.
Initiatedindenial
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You are making yourself an easy target to get ripped off. Only you can coach yourself.
wifehunter
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Yep, the money is better used elsewhere. Maybe investing?
wifehunter
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A friend from highschool ended up becoming a stripper. Cute girl, ended up being a ho, too.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.