"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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looking down how can i stop?

guayaballer

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whenever i see a girl looking at me i tilt my head down and or look away i know its submissivness and when i do it im like CRAP i did it again i look back up anad she doesnt look. so is their any way i can practice not looking down or something?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Look straight into their eyes and don't look away! and smile.
 

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Yeah, don't sleep one night - stay up, then go out the next day at lunch and walk about town.

Slight sleep deprivation causes a huge increase in confidence and makes you feel invincible - I'm sure it's a survival mechanism, but you can use it to your advantage for practice. You won't CARE what anyone thinks of you and will be able to clock eyes with everyone, male or female.

I'm totally serious by the way. If you're going to do it, drink plenty of fluid.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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what musclyjerk said i sorta have just experinced, due to finals ive been up late now i never have problems making eye contact but definatly ive been spitting like A+ game. Im past that stage of like confidence but it might help so go with it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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djweses89

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Think of it like a game man for example like i do if theres a girl walking one way in the hallway and im walking the other way ( so we are gunna pass each other ) and we catch eye contact i look at her give her a catchy smile and i keep looking until she looks down and when she does im like YES i won and if she never breaks the eye contact when she is right at you and you pass her give her a simple "hey" works wonders.
 

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man I effin hate this, I practised and got good at it, then suddenly when I saw this girl I like I looked away ****ing thing :p , just practise, its easy when youre not hinking anything
 

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Being able to maintain eye contact is more mental than physical. When you grow confident enough, you're going to want to stare every woman down that you see, trust me.

Sleep deprivation is probably the most unhealthy way to practice, although it does put you in survival mode in which you feel like you'll rape anything you see :)

Build your confidence up, or simply tell yourself that you don't give a sh!t and you can stare any woman down that you'd like. Don't be scared, you'll be reaping the benefits thereafter.
 

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If you read the DJ Bible, it tells you that you're the prize, not them. If anything they should be looking away from you :p
 

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Yep that's right. It's a big self-esteem boost when they smile and look down all embarassed :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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