"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Long story short - Is it worth having a POF account?
- Thread starter For_F
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
:cheer: I think my ego gets to me more than anything. I'd love some opinions on it, too.
Get one.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
she the preppy type of girl, who has perfect English, been living abroad for 7 years and has a degree. i can't compete with that. i need someone close to my level of " class"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SpazzAttackk
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spiegel549
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If you are looking for the girl of your dreams, POF is not the answer lol.
Honestly you should use it for entertainment purposes, and practice talking with women, working your "texting game" or w.e. other then that. Go meet women in person. It is much more promising.
99.9% of the women on that site are on there for a reason..DAMAGED GOODS!
TillTheEndOfTime
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Do you want anything resembling a somewhat meaningful relationship? Then no.
Are you after just casual sex? Then it might be worth it for you.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Anyone I know who had reasonable success with it treated it like a PART TIME JOB. lolspiegel549 said:
It is an uphill battle if you're not extremely attractive.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
incognito42
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For_F said:
It's up to you dude. For me I was a decent looking guy not getting much ass and lacking some confidence and in my own head too much. Pof made it easy to break outta a lot of my problems by giving me a "safe" way to experiment with talking to a lot of chicks. Much easier to get rejected online, especially when there's an enormous supply of chicks to move onto if one rejected me.
Now I'm never going to hit a dry spell without sex again. I have and can get many options to get laid right away basically on speed dial. I'm Able to get a lot of chicks in real life who were outta reach for me before I gained the confidence and became a more complete person.
More than anything pof is a place where you can get a handful of numbers of lonely and horny chicks without consuming a fraction of the time and effort it rakes in real life. However, you have to understand these are low class chicks only good for one night stands and fwb situations. If you want a quality chik you need to meet those in the real world
incognito42
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I've had ZERO experience with chicks lookingfor free meals, free rides, someone to raise their kids, etc. There are a select few just looking for entertainment. The vast VAST majority are looking to get laid
It's also consumed VERY little time until the point that I was getting more number than I could keep up with. texting 5-10 chicks at a time and at that Poinr it was consuming a lot of time. But the amount of time and effort it takes to get the chicks number is very minimal. I mean, how hard is it to copy/paste a message to 20-30 chicks? After that it's a matter of asking how the sites treating them and then asking for the number. After awhile you go on auto pilot. Very little effort and time is used
Thata just from my experience