"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Long story short - Is it worth having a POF account?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
:cheer: I think my ego gets to me more than anything. I'd love some opinions on it, too.
Get one.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
she the preppy type of girl, who has perfect English, been living abroad for 7 years and has a degree. i can't compete with that. i need someone close to my level of " class"
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SpazzAttackk
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spiegel549
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If you are looking for the girl of your dreams, POF is not the answer lol.
Honestly you should use it for entertainment purposes, and practice talking with women, working your "texting game" or w.e. other then that. Go meet women in person. It is much more promising.
99.9% of the women on that site are on there for a reason..DAMAGED GOODS!
TillTheEndOfTime
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Do you want anything resembling a somewhat meaningful relationship? Then no.
Are you after just casual sex? Then it might be worth it for you.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Anyone I know who had reasonable success with it treated it like a PART TIME JOB. lolspiegel549 said:
It is an uphill battle if you're not extremely attractive.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
incognito42
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For_F said:
It's up to you dude. For me I was a decent looking guy not getting much ass and lacking some confidence and in my own head too much. Pof made it easy to break outta a lot of my problems by giving me a "safe" way to experiment with talking to a lot of chicks. Much easier to get rejected online, especially when there's an enormous supply of chicks to move onto if one rejected me.
Now I'm never going to hit a dry spell without sex again. I have and can get many options to get laid right away basically on speed dial. I'm Able to get a lot of chicks in real life who were outta reach for me before I gained the confidence and became a more complete person.
More than anything pof is a place where you can get a handful of numbers of lonely and horny chicks without consuming a fraction of the time and effort it rakes in real life. However, you have to understand these are low class chicks only good for one night stands and fwb situations. If you want a quality chik you need to meet those in the real world
incognito42
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I've had ZERO experience with chicks lookingfor free meals, free rides, someone to raise their kids, etc. There are a select few just looking for entertainment. The vast VAST majority are looking to get laid
It's also consumed VERY little time until the point that I was getting more number than I could keep up with. texting 5-10 chicks at a time and at that Poinr it was consuming a lot of time. But the amount of time and effort it takes to get the chicks number is very minimal. I mean, how hard is it to copy/paste a message to 20-30 chicks? After that it's a matter of asking how the sites treating them and then asking for the number. After awhile you go on auto pilot. Very little effort and time is used
Thata just from my experience