"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Long Distance Relationships???

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My girlfriend just moved off to a different college than me. She has spent a week up there and she has met lots of people, including a few guys that are interested in her. I've been wondering how a long distance relationship is going to work??? Will it work out or not??? This really worries me b/c we have a history together...We've been going out for a little under 2 years now...and I don't want to see things end because I love her. Does anyone have any personal stories or advice to help me deal with the distance. Keep in mind that she will be coming to visit me every weekend or something like that.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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why do you say that Ken???
 
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Originally posted by Suaveman
My girlfriend just moved off to a different college than me. She has spent a week up there and she has met lots of people, including a few guys that are interested in her. I've been wondering how a long distance relationship is going to work??? Will it work out or not??? This really worries me b/c we have a history together...We've been going out for a little under 2 years now...and I don't want to see things end because I love her. Does anyone have any personal stories or advice to help me deal with the distance. Keep in mind that she will be coming to visit me every weekend or something like that.

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They work if you two want them to work and make them work.

Yes, I'm going to do a shameless self promotion: Check my sig. and see the post on that day. You'll understand then.
 
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If you truly love each other than it will work with equal effort. Keep in touch, stay exciting, don't complain to her that she's away, just take it lightly and be a man and she will always think of you in that positive light. Distance is nothing if the foundation has already been established.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm a pessimist because I have been in that position before... If you want it to work... keep your options open as well... Don't cheat on her, but don't put all your chips on her.

Because if you put all your chips on this relationship, you will feel pretty helpless if it ends. Then you'll have to rebuild from scratch which takes a while and is harder when you're single.

~Zappa
 
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End it, if you two are meant to be together it will happen AFTER college! For now, let her live her life and you live yours also!

I have only ever seen ONE LTR work! I tried one myself once, lasted a year and of course like everything, it ended. Wont bother wasting my time and putting myself through that again!

Sorry for the bad news, but you are going to experience it sooner or later!
 
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