"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Long Distance Relationships???

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My girlfriend just moved off to a different college than me. She has spent a week up there and she has met lots of people, including a few guys that are interested in her. I've been wondering how a long distance relationship is going to work??? Will it work out or not??? This really worries me b/c we have a history together...We've been going out for a little under 2 years now...and I don't want to see things end because I love her. Does anyone have any personal stories or advice to help me deal with the distance. Keep in mind that she will be coming to visit me every weekend or something like that.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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why do you say that Ken???
 
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Originally posted by Suaveman
My girlfriend just moved off to a different college than me. She has spent a week up there and she has met lots of people, including a few guys that are interested in her. I've been wondering how a long distance relationship is going to work??? Will it work out or not??? This really worries me b/c we have a history together...We've been going out for a little under 2 years now...and I don't want to see things end because I love her. Does anyone have any personal stories or advice to help me deal with the distance. Keep in mind that she will be coming to visit me every weekend or something like that.

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They work if you two want them to work and make them work.

Yes, I'm going to do a shameless self promotion: Check my sig. and see the post on that day. You'll understand then.
 
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If you truly love each other than it will work with equal effort. Keep in touch, stay exciting, don't complain to her that she's away, just take it lightly and be a man and she will always think of you in that positive light. Distance is nothing if the foundation has already been established.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm a pessimist because I have been in that position before... If you want it to work... keep your options open as well... Don't cheat on her, but don't put all your chips on her.

Because if you put all your chips on this relationship, you will feel pretty helpless if it ends. Then you'll have to rebuild from scratch which takes a while and is harder when you're single.

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End it, if you two are meant to be together it will happen AFTER college! For now, let her live her life and you live yours also!

I have only ever seen ONE LTR work! I tried one myself once, lasted a year and of course like everything, it ended. Wont bother wasting my time and putting myself through that again!

Sorry for the bad news, but you are going to experience it sooner or later!
 
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