Unfortunately, they’ll remain far better citizens than they should be. The reason why they struggle is because society and women can sense their better nature, and know they can be taken advantage of. Only very occasionally do any of them “snap.”
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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We are all running a race. Some better than others. If we pay attention on someone else's track too much then we don't be able to do our own track. What we don't get done on our own track is something we have to own. Just like we missing all of the shots we don't take even if the miss rate is 99% otherwise - if you miss that 1%, then you've missed out.
Progress means different things to different people, even if its getting a girlfriend, a nice connection with someone in a LDR, whatever works. Not everybody needs to be a player or have rotations in order to be happy with themselves and what they are getting out of life. Honestly, I don't have one envious bone in my body to others who are cleaning house in that way.
You’re really just demoralized at this point. Nobody with any sense of justice can look at the current state of affairs with anything but malice.
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Where are you on the incel-player spectrum? I'm incel myself but oddly feel rather blissful rather than miserable. I take it you are pissed?
Don’t meet the technical definition of an incel, but I am one in spirit. I guess that makes me a fakecell
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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You are in a relationship?
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Nothing unfortunate if its a good old fist fight. Some of these young men though are becoming mass shooters.
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There's a difference between empowering women and tilting in women's favor. What this is really doing is empowering and favoring the people in charge. This culture is punishing hard working people and rewarding recklessness.
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Without extraordinarily accessible porn, there would be a lot more violence.
What are some positive suggestions that you would recommend for those who feel like they are getting the short end of the stick?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Plinco
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Hard working people are getting the short end of the stick so to speak because of social engineering. Knowing this and acting accordingly is a huge opportunity to get ahead of the competition. Where ever there is turmoil there is opportunity.
I'm not celibate. I'm rarely (if ever) in a relationship
When an anti-masculinity, left-leaning media outlet (yes, "media" outlet, not news organization) like CNN senses that there could be catastrophic consequences of alienating and vilifying men, then you know the problem is already beyond helping.
But at least CNN makes their stance clear: at 3:00 the dude says that he's worried lonely men won't buy into the climate change nonsense and other left-leaning agenda.
So CNN is only concerned about men's well-being only in so far as they're worried men will increasingly reject their left-leaning narrative.
Young zoomer men have literally ZERO options for financial growth, 99% of them are destined to be broke serfs in a new Feudal System...
But at least CNN makes their stance clear: at 3:00 the dude says that he's worried lonely men won't buy into the climate change nonsense and other left-leaning agenda.
So CNN is only concerned about men's well-being only in so far as they're worried men will increasingly reject their left-leaning narrative.
Young zoomer men have literally ZERO options for financial growth, 99% of them are destined to be broke serfs in a new Feudal System...
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Chad wont commit.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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some of my friend group, who used to do ok with women, are now very single. Something has changed.
When you say that there are a lot of guys who don't bring much to the table, what do you mean, specifically? What should they bring specifically to the table? And would you agree that there are many women who are in relationships despite not bringing much to the table other than, well, you know?
What do your friends think has caused the change in their success rate with women? What do you think?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.