"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Lonely girls on Facebook "joking" about being lonely on Valentines day...
- Thread starter FM 3321
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
Why bother at all? You know she is seeking attention. I recall when myspace and facebook first hit. They were kind of neat, but now they are the most stupid thing in the world. I still have a book acct but rarely use it. I even see men posting silly $hit on their moods and walls.FM 3321 said:How would you respond to one of these posts for example? :
Wondering what all the playa's in the house think.
I see Facebook as a communication medium just like the telephone. If you play it right you can have fun and use it to your advantage. That's my view on Facebook and the once popular MySpace. So with that said, that's why I would bother.SoldMySoul said:
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
FM 3321 said:I see Facebook as a communication medium just like the telephone. If you play it right you can have fun and use it to your advantage. That's my view on Facebook and the once popular MySpace. So with that said, that's why I would bother.
The reason you mentioned is why I keep it.. communication with friends and co workers from the past. If you wish to say something to her about not having a V-day date and nobody loves her, you will probably be among many she will hear from. Knock yourself right on out.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your_Royal_Flyness
Don Juan
I agree. That is online speak for "I'm an attention wh0re. Please feed me some comments so that I will build enough self esteem!" Keep "mackin" (or PUA'ing) as usually throughout Valentines Day and beyond.FM 3321 said:How would you respond to one of these posts for example? :
Wondering what all the playa's in the house think.
You CAN bag chicks on Facebook. (Duh, check the signature...lol
) But do not feed blatant cries for attention.thedude4242
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