"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alright, so things are stalled out with Megan. She's in DC for the week, coming back on Friday. To me that says date this weekend. My house probably won't work, and I'm not ready for it. Hers might but should I invite myself over?

I'm more likely to go for another public place. I really try not to do movies, the escalation is obvious and easy, but cliche. Where else can we make out in peace?

I'm thinking I might try to do a mall/movie combination deal. Any advice from the sosuave crew?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I like the mall/movie combo. You can walk around and talk to her for a little while then get her in the movie and escalate the **** outta her. Sometimes the simplest ideas are the best and if she likes you it wont matter where you take her.
 
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I feel like I need to ask this in regards to HB Kaitlin on my journal. I wanna take her someplace warm where we can wrestle and maybe escalate into sex.

My problem is that neither of our places are particularly quiet, it's cold outside, and I'm generally not sure where to go. If push comes to shove I can always try to polite to her parents and then hopefully her basement is private enough. Otherwise I'm open to suggestions.
 
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BPH said:
I feel like I need to ask this in regards to HB Kaitlin on my journal. I wanna take her someplace warm where we can wrestle and maybe escalate into sex.

My problem is that neither of our places are particularly quiet, it's cold outside, and I'm generally not sure where to go. If push comes to shove I can always try to polite to her parents and then hopefully her basement is private enough. Otherwise I'm open to suggestions.
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Well, honestly, my favorite date would be enjoying 'flowers' (why do I keep up this charade? There are drugs in my life...) in my car with her, playing music, 'wrestling' (lol). Then going and playing in Toys R Us. I've done this a few times with my girlfriend-at-the-time. Nothing like post-sex silliness plus high silliness plus little kid toys.

I don't know about that for a first date. Or even a third. When am I allowed to pull this one off? It's fun...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LearningSlowly said:
Well, honestly, my favorite date would be enjoying 'flowers' (why do I keep up this charade? There are drugs in my life...) in my car with her, playing music, 'wrestling' (lol). Then going and playing in Toys R Us. I've done this a few times with my girlfriend-at-the-time. Nothing like post-sex silliness plus high silliness plus little kid toys.

I don't know about that for a first date. Or even a third. When am I allowed to pull this one off? It's fun...
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...ok...lol
 
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