"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alright, so things are stalled out with Megan. She's in DC for the week, coming back on Friday. To me that says date this weekend. My house probably won't work, and I'm not ready for it. Hers might but should I invite myself over?

I'm more likely to go for another public place. I really try not to do movies, the escalation is obvious and easy, but cliche. Where else can we make out in peace?

I'm thinking I might try to do a mall/movie combination deal. Any advice from the sosuave crew?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I like the mall/movie combo. You can walk around and talk to her for a little while then get her in the movie and escalate the **** outta her. Sometimes the simplest ideas are the best and if she likes you it wont matter where you take her.
 

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I feel like I need to ask this in regards to HB Kaitlin on my journal. I wanna take her someplace warm where we can wrestle and maybe escalate into sex.

My problem is that neither of our places are particularly quiet, it's cold outside, and I'm generally not sure where to go. If push comes to shove I can always try to polite to her parents and then hopefully her basement is private enough. Otherwise I'm open to suggestions.
 

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BPH said:
I feel like I need to ask this in regards to HB Kaitlin on my journal. I wanna take her someplace warm where we can wrestle and maybe escalate into sex.

My problem is that neither of our places are particularly quiet, it's cold outside, and I'm generally not sure where to go. If push comes to shove I can always try to polite to her parents and then hopefully her basement is private enough. Otherwise I'm open to suggestions.
Well, honestly, my favorite date would be enjoying 'flowers' (why do I keep up this charade? There are drugs in my life...) in my car with her, playing music, 'wrestling' (lol). Then going and playing in Toys R Us. I've done this a few times with my girlfriend-at-the-time. Nothing like post-sex silliness plus high silliness plus little kid toys.

I don't know about that for a first date. Or even a third. When am I allowed to pull this one off? It's fun...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LearningSlowly said:
Well, honestly, my favorite date would be enjoying 'flowers' (why do I keep up this charade? There are drugs in my life...) in my car with her, playing music, 'wrestling' (lol). Then going and playing in Toys R Us. I've done this a few times with my girlfriend-at-the-time. Nothing like post-sex silliness plus high silliness plus little kid toys.

I don't know about that for a first date. Or even a third. When am I allowed to pull this one off? It's fun...
...ok...lol
 
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