I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Last Man Standing, if you are reading my post I want to say that I am finally getting what your saying. I need more knowledge though before its too late.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
And this is the beginning of your end!!!!I.A.F.Y.B. said:Indeed I am! But, sadly. I'm starting to fall in love with my ho' :nervous:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I didn't think he'd take the bait. Guess I was wrong. Nice one!I.A.F.Y.B. said:Then, shall the light shine upon my clouded mind before it gets too dark to see!!! For it is I that looks for a woman!
Then to save yourself you shall seek her feminine nature, as naturally designed!!!!!I.A.F.Y.B. said:Then, shall the light shine upon my clouded mind before it gets too dark to see!!! For it is I that looks for a woman!
It is simple!! Men and women were created to be with one another and NOT separate - can we create offspring otherwise??? Would you/we exist otherwise?? When you have the maximum of "two" in the creative/upbringing process then you must have one that dominates!!! This is elementary!! There is NOT a majority between "two" parties - so to create cohesion only one can dominate!!! Elementary!!I.A.F.Y.B. said:This is gonna take sometime reading and understanding but, none the less I will repost my new found wisdom.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
just asking, what does "bump" mean and why do people post it?bump
Well she has been around the block before me.... But, she acts how a woman should. She cooks me food, she follows my lead, takes care of me when I'm sick, drunk or hurt, gives me back rubs and ect. She is submissive to me of how a woman should be explained in "The Natural Order Of Things." But, the fact she has had multiple sex partners bugs me a little. (They weren't random guys or ONS's.) To me her IL is high and we have a good relationship. I am still young and have plenty of more girls to meet and qualify for myself. She is not my first gf but not the last. I just need to look at her actions and dig deep into myself and figure out what it is I really want.Obsidian said:Just read his damn article, IAFYB. It's not that hard to understand.
Btw, how horish is your ho? It's probably not good to fall in love with her.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Very good point and advice. It seems genuine but, I will always protect my heart if something feels astray.Last Man Standing said:Iafyb, yes, you must know what you want, but more importantly is to know what she wants - is her submissiveness an "act" because she wants something from you, or is it genuine affection? This is very important to know because many guys here are in LTRs and think their girl has genuine affection for them but then suddenly she gets cold and leaves, and the guy is dumbfounded why she grew distant. The reason is that there is always another guy in the picture - and then the guy feels betrayed, and rightfully so!! Know the intentions of the person who you are with!! Don't ask her - just observe her intently!!
to bump the thread to the top of the thread listelmnick said:just asking, what does "bump" mean and why do people post it?
ValleyDJing said:LMS...you remind me of the character in Tucker Max's book, "Slingblade".
I'm trying to figure out where you stand. You are quick to label women hors and whatnot, but I have never really heard what defines a women as a hor. What makes a hor? A non-virgin? A chick who has had sex with under 5 men? Under 10? What?
DevanE said:LMS...I have been trying to free myself from the hor Matrix as well but considering my dashing looks and charm, it seems that I am getting "sucked" back into it repeatedly, consistently and more aggressively than ever. My circuits keep being overridden and it looks as if the hor matrix gets stronger every time I try to decrypt myself from it and terminate the sequence. What do I do because I might just give up and accept the Matrix for what it is and be lost in the abyss of perpetual blindness. Save me LMS !!!!! SAAAAAAAAAAAAVEE MEEEEEE!!!!!! :woo:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.