Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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LJBF where did I go wrong?

Konada

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A girl at work caught my eye and since I'm leaving the job in 3 weeks I decided to ask her out.

Kino, teasing and she was responding receptively until I asked for the date, she gave me the number and said

'I don't know if I should tell you this'

'We can be friends'

Where the fvck did I go wrong?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dude99

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A girl at work caught my eye and since I'm leaving the job in 3 weeks I decided to ask her out.

Kino, teasing and she was responding receptively until I asked for the date, she gave me the number and said

'I don't know if I should tell you this'

'We can be friends'

Where the fvck did I go wrong?
Nowhere. She just had low interest.
 

cola

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A girl at work caught my eye and since I'm leaving the job in 3 weeks I decided to ask her out.

Kino, teasing and she was responding receptively until I asked for the date, she gave me the number and said

'I don't know if I should tell you this'

'We can be friends'

Where the fvck did I go wrong?
Invite her out anyway. If she frames it as a "ljbf hangout" disregard and proceed like its a date. Use Kino and escalate like you would any other date. Its hard to show alpha male qualities at work because you arent the alpha, the boss is. So when you get her out let the Don Juan you shine through. If after that nothing then she just doesnt dig you.
 

RangerMIke

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If she is willing to go out with you then do not worry about what the fvck she is saying.

Gee how many times does this have to be said... NEVER pay attention to what women say.... only what they do.

Why do women say stuff like this... heck I don't know. But I do know much of it has to do with the fact that there are so many fvcking clueless dudes out there. I'm seeing a woman now who has this freaking nut case stalking her.... She went out with him for only a few weeks... and he's already acting like they've been married for years. Many times women will say LJBFs right off the bat because they want guys to slow the fvck down.
 

playa99

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Just proceed as usual, she gave you her number.

She will more than likely use the 'we are friends' line again. Ignore it and escalate. If you get rejected, then she really does want to be friends & has low sexual interest in you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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