LJBF need advice

[Konada]

Created another thread but there was too little detail to know exactly whats going on.

Its been quite awhile since I've felt this attracted to a girl but seeing how the situation has turned out, I don't know what's the best course of action is to take is, I'll try be as detailed as possible so I grt the best possible thing I can do in this case to mantain my emotional stability:

Story:

I met this girl (Girl A) at work about a month ago, we exchanged smiles and a little chit chat here and there but nothing too substantial. It was until yesterday that I was on the bus and she sat next to me, I took it as a sign of interest for her to sit next to me while usually she would find any other seat on the bus, had a little chit chat, harmless kino and that's it.

Later during the evening, I was waiting at the bus stop and she approached me again, I told her come take a seat and her proximity was closer than I usually expect, with arms brushing time to time. Anyway I continue chatting her up with kino, teasing and the like with her smiling and asking me questions. She has a friend (Girl B) in the same workplace and occasionally she would drop things like 'Girl B thinks you're very handsome' and apparently Girl B has told Girl A everything about the conversation I had with Girl B, my age what I do etc. I just brush it off like no big deal and continue flirting and kino with girl A. No flinching.

It came when I jokingly mentioned that I had trouble figuring out what I could take her out for and suddenly her face expression changed to an 'Oh ****' kind of expression.

Nonetheless, we still continued to enjoy each's others company and that's when I asked her to join me for a walk I'm planning to go on.

She told me 'No' with a smile on her face and said 'Rejected!'. My gut feel told me it was a sh!t test so I persisted and said
'I asked once so I won't ask twice again'
with a smile on my face. After that she asked me what's the plan so I gave abit of detail and then she said
'Do you want to ask Girl B to come along?'
I told her sure thing if you like a third wheel coming along.

I handed her my phone, again she exclaimed no with a smile on her face and then proceeded to input her number.

Gave her a missed call to exchange numbers and then she said 'I don't know if I should tell you this'

I said 'Go ahead'

She says 'We can be friends'.

At this point I was shocked as hell how could everrything go downhill so fast, I just smiled and said 'No problem' because I still am in office for the next 3 weeks before I leave.

So what's going on here, should I even pursue or chalk it up to a loss? Please advise

TL;DR
1. Girl A hits on me at the bus stop
2. Girl A constantly brings up Girl B, I pay no attention to it
3. I ask Girl A out, she gives me her number and tells me 'We can be friends.'

 

[wifehunter]

Sounds like you've built up some rapport. I would make myself scarce, at this point.

See if she chases. If not, her loss.

 

[cola]

I replied to your previous thread, now that you've provided more detail I can tell you exactly whats happening.. its pretty obvious, you're going to smack your forehead when you read this..

You are off limits to Girl A because Girl B has a serious crush on you and she doesn't want to cause conflict by stepping on Girl Bs toes.

Dude, duh.. how did you not catch this you're usually so sharp @Konada

 

[Konada]

I replied to your previous thread, now that you've provided more detail I can tell you exactly whats happening.. its pretty obvious, you're going to smack your forehead when you read this..

You are off limits to Girl A because Girl B has a serious crush on you and she doesn't want to cause conflict by stepping on Girl Bs toes.

Dude, duh.. how did you not catch this you're usually so sharp @Konada

So what should I do in this case?

 

[playa99]

Who is girl b?@Konada

Girl A has interest in you, but doesn't want to step on Girl B's toes.

I would keep on escalating with Girl A, take her on the walk.

Provided you don't have a prior relationship with girl B, she will get over it.

 

[Konada]

Who is girl b?@Konada

Girl A has interest in you, but doesn't want to step on Girl B's toes.

I would keep on escalating with Girl A, take her on the walk.

Provided you don't have a prior relationship with girl B, she will get over it.

A good friend of hers of 8+ years. I probed abit and found out Girl B is a natural guilt tripper as well.

 

[cola]

So what should I do in this case?

Let it be. Forget them both and find another horse to ride.

 

[Konada]

Let it be. Forget them both and find another horse to ride.

Well its a fvcking waste considering girl A is a HB7 and girl B is a HB4. Fvck.

 

[cola]

Well its a fvcking waste considering girl A is a HB7 and girl B is a HB4. Fvck.

On the bright side hb7s are more common than rattata's on Pokemon Go! so no worries holmes.

 

[Igetit!]

Created another thread but there was too little detail to know exactly whats going on.

Its been quite awhile since I've felt this attracted to a girl but seeing how the situation has turned out, I don't know what's the best course of action is to take is, I'll try be as detailed as possible so I grt the best possible thing I can do in this case to mantain my emotional stability:

Story:

I met this girl (Girl A) at work about a month ago,we exchanged smiles and a little chit chat here and there but nothing too substantial.

I'd say this (the part I put in bold) was your first mistake. You said you met her A MONTH ago.....BUT....

It was until yesterday

You met her a month ago,but it wasn't until just yesterday that you decided to express your interest. That's MORE THAN enough time to get friendzoned.

And this part here.....

that I was on the bus and she sat next to me, I took it as a sign of interest for her to sit next to me

I'd say that was mistake #2. You took her sitting next to you as a sign of interest. Dude listen.....there's ONLY ONE IOI I go by.......ONE,and that's this.......

When I ask a girl out,and she says YES. That's the ONLY ioi I care about. All that other sh1t.....her playing with her hair,smiling at me,touching me while she talks.....screw all that. Me asking her out and her saying yes....that's the only one I have confidence in,and you know what? Even it's not 100%. But it's the closest thing to it imo.

while usually she would find any other seat on the bus, had a little chit chat, harmless kino and that's it.

Ok,that's the second time you've mentioned "harmless chit chat". Question......

If you keep having all these "harmless chit chat" sessions with her without showing or expressing interest,combined with the fact you've known her for a month,what is she supposed to think? Why would her let's just be friends speech be such a surprise to you when the WHOLE TIME you've known her,all you've done was behave friendly?

When she gave you the friendzone speech,all she did was reciprocate. She simply gave back to you what you FIRST sent out to her. I mean damn......why do you think she had such a shocked expression on her face when you mentioned taking her out?

Cause she was used to "harmless chit chat",but then suddenly realized you were expressing interest.

It came when I jokingly mentioned that I had trouble figuring out what I could take her out for and suddenly her face expression changed to an 'Oh ****' kind of expression.

You shouldn't joke around when asking a girl out. If you seriously want to take her out,then you should be serious when you ask her out. Just sayin...

Nonetheless, we still continued to enjoy each's others company and that's when I asked her to join me for a walk I'm planning to go on.

She told me 'No' with a smile on her face and said 'Rejected!'. My gut feel told me it was a sh!t test so I persisted and said
'I asked once so I won't ask twice again'
with a smile on my face. After that she asked me what's the plan so I gave abit of detail and then she said
'Do you want to ask Girl B to come along?'

Urggghhhh......this is getting PAINFUL to read.

I handed her my phone, again she exclaimed no with a smile on her face and then proceeded to input her number.

Gave her a missed call to exchange numbers and then she said 'I don't know if I should tell you this'

I said 'Go ahead'

She says 'We can be friends'.

So the "shocked" expression when you mentioned talking her out,her saying NO when you tried to get to along on a walk with you,and her asking if her friend could come along on the walk.....none of that was hint enough,you continued along asking for her number,until you got the friendzone speech.....

double facepalm.......

At this point I was shocked as hell how could everrything go downhill so fast,

Go downhill "so fast"? Konada.....this started downhill a month ago. It just didn't hit a dead end til yesterday.

So what's going on here, should I even pursue or chalk it up to a loss?

Just move on. And next time......DON'T "JOKE AROUND" when you ask a girl out,and also,don't wait a month before asking the girl out. And STOP with the harmless "chit-chat" sessions. You may get by with one or two.....but if you keep them up for long periods of time without showing interest.......it's back to friendzone city.

You've been here too long to get tripped up on petty sh!t like the friendzone.

 

[Konada]

Well it's game over guys, I pushed for the meetup and she tells me she has a bf. Moving on. Live and learn I guess, you never know until you ask for the date.