"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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sunday night chat topic:
Spring Fever- Get off your ASS and get in shape!

tonight!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What an abortion.

New topic.
 
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Why create topics if it's not going to be discussed? I've noticed that the trend is to have 10 or more different members having three different conversations going at the same time. It's confusing and a waste of time, imo. Last night, for example, the conversation turned into how to COOK MEAT. I think the topics are good, but I joined in last night preparing to talk about being physically active. I didn't want to share recipes for crissakes. That's what foodtv.com is for. I mean, it's not as if there's a "DJ" way to braise your steak. You can get that information anywhere. Don't clog up the live chat.

If this is how live chat is going to go, we should create TWO chat rooms: one designated for the chosen topic, and one designated as a "social lounge," if you will, to just shoot the breeze and talk about off-topic items. Too many people talking about off-topic shyt creates unnecessary lag in the chat room, which contributes to more chat confusion.
 
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Why create topics if it's not going to be discussed? I've noticed that the trend is to have 10 or more different members having three different conversations going at the same time. It's confusing and a waste of time, imo. Last night, for example, the conversation turned into how to COOK MEAT. I think the topics are good, but I joined in last night preparing to talk about being physically active. I didn't want to share recipes for crissakes. That's what foodtv.com is for. I mean, it's not as if there's a "DJ" way to braise your steak. You can get that information anywhere. Don't clog up the live chat.

If this is how live chat is going to go, we should create TWO chat rooms: one designated for the chosen topic, and one designated as a "social lounge," if you will, to just shoot the breeze and talk about off-topic items. Too many people talking about off-topic shyt creates unnecessary lag in the chat room, which contributes to more chat confusion.
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last night alot of people were talking about work out routines and fitness but probably before you got in there, as many people were an hour or so early for chat last night.
i think they began talking about food because someone asked what to eat to bulk up, and then others were asking particular food items that were good for you like is steak or chicken better for your health when you are doing such and such routines .
however, i was in and out and can not say exactly what all was said.

usually in any chat room, most people will stay on topic but you will always have someone that doesn't.

perhaps we could remind everyone to stay on topic during a topic discussion and when the discussion is over, everyone can chit chat again.

so far, everyone kinda takes turns suggesting topics that would be helpful to others. if you have a topic suggestion, either update the thread or shoot me a pm.

a few guys mentioned last night that they would love to come back to chat and help on fitness again, i will update everyone when i know more.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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alright everyone...
tomorrow's sunday night chat will feature the topic of "laws of attraction"
i hope you all will come.
the chat will be at 6 pm so that more people can attend.

i will ask that everyone stay on topic during the discussion for about an hour, then when the topic finishes up, everyone is free to stay and discuss any other topics that they want to, and chit chat!
that way the members that are only there for the chat can leave when it is over.

come chime in with us!!
 
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It's 8 pm EST here, and we're in chat talking about Law of Attraction and positive mental attitudes.
 
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The thread title needs to at least have a date. Is there a live chat tonight? (Monday, April 14th) There should be because this thread title says "live sosuave chat: Tonight's topic:" I must have clicked on this thread at least 6-7 times now only to discover that "tonight" meant some other day already past.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well it gets bumped usually everytime there is a chat so at that time, technically it usually is tonight. However after 4-5 times, you think you'd learn.
 
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MacAvoy said:
However after 4-5 times, you think you'd learn.
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Learn what, exactly? I don't come here every single day.

If i see it near the top, I click on it to see if tonight means "tonight" and so far, it hasn't for me.
 
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azanon said:
The thread title needs to at least have a date. Is there a live chat tonight? (Monday, April 14th) There should be because this thread title says "live sosuave chat: Tonight's topic:" I must have clicked on this thread at least 6-7 times now only to discover that "tonight" meant some other day already past.
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Originally it didn't say "tonight". That was modified a week or two ago.

All organized "official" chats are on Sundays at 10pm EDT (-5 GMT). However, on occasion posters will use this thread to make an impromptu announcement that a discussion is taking place using the free chat room.

The chat room is open 24/7 to those who are registered to access it. penkitten is the admin and you'll need to win her over before she gives you a key to the room. (I hear she's into chocolate.)
 
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this sunday night's topic
4-20-08 10pm eastern
Paradox's How do women process regret?
lead by Paradox himself...
be there !
 
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this sunday night's topic
4-20-08 10pm eastern
Paradox's How do women process regret?
lead by Paradox himself...
be there !
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Hmmmm
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Women regret same as men.

I know a lot of women who would think the exact opposite of the OP. They think WE are the ones that stew and analyze, while men are only occupied with the "real time".
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I agree with Iqqi here. Why is it so hard to believe that women think the same as men nowadays? Maybe in previous times when men and women lived completely different lives but nowadays the only difference in their lives is giving birth and bleeding every couple of weeks imo. Once you see the thought process behind women KNOWING they are the prize and always having men at their beck and call is it not understandable why they act the way they do?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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penkitten said:
this sunday night's topic
4-20-08 10pm eastern
Paradox's How do women process regret?
lead by Paradox himself...
be there !
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I'll try to be there, eyes propped open with toothpicks like Bean.
 
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Ooops. Sorry... I totally forgot. I was so busy working that it totally slipped my mind. I am so busy...I'll put it in my palm so I really don't miss it this Sunday.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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