When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well schools almost over and I don't actually live in this area during the summer, so it shouldn't matter right? It's not like I really want a relationship with any of these girls anyway, and even if I did it would have to get cut off because schools ending.lebRambo said:Hey dude.
In answer to your general question: it only hurts to make your intentions (whatever they may be) known early on rather than later if you stand a good chance of scaring her off.
If its a common thing for people to hang in each others rooms at uni, then by all means have a go. If she is obviously gonna take this is as 'come to my room so we can fvck', then maybe have coffee first stud
But it is a good idea for a second or third date.