Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well schools almost over and I don't actually live in this area during the summer, so it shouldn't matter right? It's not like I really want a relationship with any of these girls anyway, and even if I did it would have to get cut off because schools ending.lebRambo said:Hey dude.
In answer to your general question: it only hurts to make your intentions (whatever they may be) known early on rather than later if you stand a good chance of scaring her off.
If its a common thing for people to hang in each others rooms at uni, then by all means have a go. If she is obviously gonna take this is as 'come to my room so we can fvck', then maybe have coffee first stud
But it is a good idea for a second or third date.