Mr.Freestyler19
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wat to do when a girl would give u IOI and then the next day b cold with u and then give u IOI again?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
little help needed!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scars
Master Don Juan
When they're being cold it's usually a sh!t test. They're trying to test to see if they can get an emotional reaction out of you. How did you act when she did this? Did you stay calm cool and collected? Ignored her? Or did you flip out on her?
Spin more plates dude:
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/plate.htm
It should get to the point where you don't actually notice when one of them is being inconsistent with her IOI's, since you're so preoccupied with all the other ones.
For now, while you're in the process of getting more "plates," just pretend it doesn't phase you. Pretend like you do have other other things to do other than think about her. Do Not chase her, and Do Not focus on trying to win her over; that will just lead to oneitis.
Get used to the abundance mentality, and truly believe it. If you do it correctly, you shouldn't even notice or care that one of your female friends is giving you the cold shoulder.
TL;DR: Don't initiate with her, flirt with other girls. She'll come around, and if she doesn't, it doesn't matter. If she shows you IOIs, do something with them; if she doesn't, don't try to convince her to like you, just let it go.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/plate.htm
It should get to the point where you don't actually notice when one of them is being inconsistent with her IOI's, since you're so preoccupied with all the other ones.
For now, while you're in the process of getting more "plates," just pretend it doesn't phase you. Pretend like you do have other other things to do other than think about her. Do Not chase her, and Do Not focus on trying to win her over; that will just lead to oneitis.
Get used to the abundance mentality, and truly believe it. If you do it correctly, you shouldn't even notice or care that one of your female friends is giving you the cold shoulder.
TL;DR: Don't initiate with her, flirt with other girls. She'll come around, and if she doesn't, it doesn't matter. If she shows you IOIs, do something with them; if she doesn't, don't try to convince her to like you, just let it go.
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
That sound's like generic female behavior to me.
if she is cold, you give her your back, and ignore her and let her see you talking to other girls...
then go back and chat her up, see if she is more receptive, if not, next her.
rule of thumb.
she takes one step back, you take two
let her come forward, and remain unaffected by signs of being cold,, its just a test... if she likes you that is. if she does not like you then she doesnt care about you either way...
then go back and chat her up, see if she is more receptive, if not, next her.
rule of thumb.
she takes one step back, you take two
let her come forward, and remain unaffected by signs of being cold,, its just a test... if she likes you that is. if she does not like you then she doesnt care about you either way...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Mr.Freestyler19
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thnks
i just acted like i would normally.....if she dont hav eye contact and say hi to me then i ll just ignore her and b like watever
i just acted like i would normally.....if she dont hav eye contact and say hi to me then i ll just ignore her and b like watever