Mr.Freestyler19
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wat to do when a girl would give u IOI and then the next day b cold with u and then give u IOI again?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
little help needed!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Master Don Juan
When they're being cold it's usually a sh!t test. They're trying to test to see if they can get an emotional reaction out of you. How did you act when she did this? Did you stay calm cool and collected? Ignored her? Or did you flip out on her?
Spin more plates dude:
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/plate.htm
It should get to the point where you don't actually notice when one of them is being inconsistent with her IOI's, since you're so preoccupied with all the other ones.
For now, while you're in the process of getting more "plates," just pretend it doesn't phase you. Pretend like you do have other other things to do other than think about her. Do Not chase her, and Do Not focus on trying to win her over; that will just lead to oneitis.
Get used to the abundance mentality, and truly believe it. If you do it correctly, you shouldn't even notice or care that one of your female friends is giving you the cold shoulder.
TL;DR: Don't initiate with her, flirt with other girls. She'll come around, and if she doesn't, it doesn't matter. If she shows you IOIs, do something with them; if she doesn't, don't try to convince her to like you, just let it go.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/plate.htm
It should get to the point where you don't actually notice when one of them is being inconsistent with her IOI's, since you're so preoccupied with all the other ones.
For now, while you're in the process of getting more "plates," just pretend it doesn't phase you. Pretend like you do have other other things to do other than think about her. Do Not chase her, and Do Not focus on trying to win her over; that will just lead to oneitis.
Get used to the abundance mentality, and truly believe it. If you do it correctly, you shouldn't even notice or care that one of your female friends is giving you the cold shoulder.
TL;DR: Don't initiate with her, flirt with other girls. She'll come around, and if she doesn't, it doesn't matter. If she shows you IOIs, do something with them; if she doesn't, don't try to convince her to like you, just let it go.
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
That sound's like generic female behavior to me.
if she is cold, you give her your back, and ignore her and let her see you talking to other girls...
then go back and chat her up, see if she is more receptive, if not, next her.
rule of thumb.
she takes one step back, you take two
let her come forward, and remain unaffected by signs of being cold,, its just a test... if she likes you that is. if she does not like you then she doesnt care about you either way...
then go back and chat her up, see if she is more receptive, if not, next her.
rule of thumb.
she takes one step back, you take two
let her come forward, and remain unaffected by signs of being cold,, its just a test... if she likes you that is. if she does not like you then she doesnt care about you either way...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Mr.Freestyler19
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thnks
i just acted like i would normally.....if she dont hav eye contact and say hi to me then i ll just ignore her and b like watever
i just acted like i would normally.....if she dont hav eye contact and say hi to me then i ll just ignore her and b like watever