Mr.Freestyler19
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wat to do when a girl would give u IOI and then the next day b cold with u and then give u IOI again?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
little help needed!
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Scars
Master Don Juan
When they're being cold it's usually a sh!t test. They're trying to test to see if they can get an emotional reaction out of you. How did you act when she did this? Did you stay calm cool and collected? Ignored her? Or did you flip out on her?
Spin more plates dude:
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/plate.htm
It should get to the point where you don't actually notice when one of them is being inconsistent with her IOI's, since you're so preoccupied with all the other ones.
For now, while you're in the process of getting more "plates," just pretend it doesn't phase you. Pretend like you do have other other things to do other than think about her. Do Not chase her, and Do Not focus on trying to win her over; that will just lead to oneitis.
Get used to the abundance mentality, and truly believe it. If you do it correctly, you shouldn't even notice or care that one of your female friends is giving you the cold shoulder.
TL;DR: Don't initiate with her, flirt with other girls. She'll come around, and if she doesn't, it doesn't matter. If she shows you IOIs, do something with them; if she doesn't, don't try to convince her to like you, just let it go.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/plate.htm
It should get to the point where you don't actually notice when one of them is being inconsistent with her IOI's, since you're so preoccupied with all the other ones.
For now, while you're in the process of getting more "plates," just pretend it doesn't phase you. Pretend like you do have other other things to do other than think about her. Do Not chase her, and Do Not focus on trying to win her over; that will just lead to oneitis.
Get used to the abundance mentality, and truly believe it. If you do it correctly, you shouldn't even notice or care that one of your female friends is giving you the cold shoulder.
TL;DR: Don't initiate with her, flirt with other girls. She'll come around, and if she doesn't, it doesn't matter. If she shows you IOIs, do something with them; if she doesn't, don't try to convince her to like you, just let it go.
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
That sound's like generic female behavior to me.
if she is cold, you give her your back, and ignore her and let her see you talking to other girls...
then go back and chat her up, see if she is more receptive, if not, next her.
rule of thumb.
she takes one step back, you take two
let her come forward, and remain unaffected by signs of being cold,, its just a test... if she likes you that is. if she does not like you then she doesnt care about you either way...
then go back and chat her up, see if she is more receptive, if not, next her.
rule of thumb.
she takes one step back, you take two
let her come forward, and remain unaffected by signs of being cold,, its just a test... if she likes you that is. if she does not like you then she doesnt care about you either way...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mr.Freestyler19
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thnks
i just acted like i would normally.....if she dont hav eye contact and say hi to me then i ll just ignore her and b like watever
i just acted like i would normally.....if she dont hav eye contact and say hi to me then i ll just ignore her and b like watever