"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Little congruence test I didn't respond to. Your take?

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Here's the text exchange:


Me: Friday party?
Her: Yeah let's
Her: How is your day?
Me: Good.
Me: Was outside checking some concrete reinforcements.
Her: Alright
Her: We're outside now but not working
Her: I'm eating here <------*2 hours later, at 10:30PM*
Her: Omg sorry wrong person.

My initial reaction was to reply with: "Go home " or "Make sure you sleep at home", but I didn't send anything. I was not happy with that text though.

I've been fvcking her for about a month now, so I assume she is referring to herself and her (female or beta orbiter) friends with "we".

The "I'm eating here", did catch me off guard.

Last time I responded alpha when she sent a (deliberately disrespectful) txt, she became submissive, as I instilled dread in her, fear of losing me.

Now I've been reading some Heartiste, and this certain point comes to mind:

VI. Keep her guessing

True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don’t really want direct answers to. Woe be the man who plays it straight — his fate is the suffering of the beta. Evade, tease, obfuscate. She thrives when she has to imagine what you’re thinking about her, and withers when she knows exactly how you feel. A woman may want financial and family security, but she does not want passion security. In the same manner, when she has displeased you, punish swiftly, but when she has done you right, reward slowly. Reward her good behavior intermittently and unpredictably and she will never tire of working hard to please you.

So she has displeased me, but I didn't punish swiftly. However she has no idea what I'm thinking.

I'm thinking that to txt her back: "Go home now", or "Make sure you get home quick", would have been more alpha.

But at least now she has no idea what I'm thinking. She surely did put me on my toes though and she will quite likely be on her toes now as well.

I think her little mistake there will keep her also on the more submissive side in the coming future as well.

Best course of action, I think: Don't text her at all until possibly Friday, and ask her simply when she's coming.

I can just be coldhearted now a little, make her try and get my approval back.

Your guys' opinion?

No bull**** please.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Here's the text exchange:


Me: Friday party?
Her: Yeah let's
Her: How is your day?
Me: Good.
Me: Was outside checking some concrete reinforcements.
Her: Alright
Her: We're outside now but not working
Her: I'm eating here <------*2 hours later, at 10:30PM*
Her: Omg sorry wrong person.

My initial reaction was to reply with: "Go home " or "Make sure you sleep at home", but I didn't send anything. I was not happy with that text though.

I've been fvcking her for about a month now, so I assume she is referring to herself and her (female or beta orbiter) friends with "we".

The "I'm eating here", did catch me off guard.

Last time I responded alpha when she sent a (deliberately disrespectful) txt, she became submissive, as I instilled dread in her, fear of losing me.

Now I've been reading some Heartiste, and this certain point comes to mind:

VI. Keep her guessing

True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don’t really want direct answers to. Woe be the man who plays it straight — his fate is the suffering of the beta. Evade, tease, obfuscate. She thrives when she has to imagine what you’re thinking about her, and withers when she knows exactly how you feel. A woman may want financial and family security, but she does not want passion security. In the same manner, when she has displeased you, punish swiftly, but when she has done you right, reward slowly. Reward her good behavior intermittently and unpredictably and she will never tire of working hard to please you.

So she has displeased me, but I didn't punish swiftly. However she has no idea what I'm thinking.

I'm thinking that to txt her back: "Go home now", or "Make sure you get home quick", would have been more alpha.

But at least now she has no idea what I'm thinking. She surely did put me on my toes though and she will quite likely be on her toes now as well.

I think her little mistake there will keep her also on the more submissive side in the coming future as well.

Best course of action, I think: Don't text her at all until possibly Friday, and ask her simply when she's coming.

I can just be coldhearted now a little, make her try and get my approval back.

Your guys' opinion?

No bull**** please.
So she accidentally texted you that she was eating and that's a problem? You've never accidentally texted the wrong person before? I can see if the text was racy or sexy but it wasn't.

Be careful that you don't get gung ho and try to apply everything you are learning about game at one time because two things will happen: 1) you will spend more time analyzing her texts and actions and planning your next move based on that (rather than enjoying dating) 2) you will annoy the f**k out of her with your misplaced strategies and she will dump you. This is my female perspective on what it would be like to have some guy apply 'dread game or negging' because I accidentally texted them that I was out eating, when I meant to text my sister. I would be nexting very quickly.

Pace it out and apply only when you are sure it's needed.
 

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Be silent and distant for now.

She will initiate contact and prolly offer some kind of explanation, observe what she does instead of what she says.

When I'm dealing with anyone its always best listen to what they have to say and then I observe what they do. It's what they do that matters to me. The rest is merely details.
 

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So she accidentally texted you that she was eating and that's a problem? You've never accidentally texted the wrong person before? I can see if the text was racy or sexy but it wasn't.

Be careful that you don't get gung ho and try to apply everything you are learning about game at one time because two things will happen: 1) you will spend more time analyzing her texts and actions and planning your next move based on that (rather than enjoying dating) 2) you will annoy the f**k out of her with your misplaced strategies and she will dump you. This is my female perspective on what it would be like to have some guy apply 'dread game or negging' because I accidentally texted them that I was out eating, when I meant to text my sister. I would be nexting very quickly.

Pace it out and apply only when you are sure it's needed.
Lady I'm not dating you please I don't care.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes but she is retarded.

She's not a normal person I guarantee it.
 

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And? She isnt your girlfriend she can do what she wants. Maybe she is spinning plates just like you are. What's the problem? You concerned she will end up dumping you for the other plate?
 
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Lady I'm not dating you please I don't care.
No you aren't, thank God, with that attitude. You asked for a no BS reply and you got one. If you're going to get snippy because people don't post what you want to hear then believe me, you are on the wrong site.
 

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She can go out with whoever she wants, who gives a f*ck?

P*ssy is only for rent never for sale.
 
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