"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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litle help?

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ok so i joined this site like a week ago...and theres this girl...i see her all the time when she passes by with her friends and everytime she does we always make eye contact...i want to aproach her but i dont know how because i've never done something like that before..im pretty much your avrage looking shy guy so yeah...any tips?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Read the bible....

Approach.....


Simple huh :D
 

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i tried that...but theres so many of them and theres so much stuff on them too i just forget what i read 5 min after im done...and im not looking for nothing fancy either...just like after i say hi and my name what do i say?
 

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Here's something:

One thing I do to approach strange female in public (twice yesterday), in a way that makes them really curious about why I'm approaching them, without thinking it's a pick-up, is just go up to them, put your eyebrows together in a suspicious look and ask:

"Who are you?"

Then she'll give you her name and everything else you want to know. She'll ask "Why?" and you'll comply with:

"Hmmmm... was looking for someone."

Then carry conversation.
 

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Ooh, if I was you, I would do something rediculous. Like slapping her on the ass twice and asking 'how much for that'. Something crazy that would make her hate me, but would totally rid me of all fear of hot babes.

But I already did that, so come up with something new ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Nex
Here's something:

One thing I do to approach strange female in public (twice yesterday), in a way that makes them really curious about why I'm approaching them, without thinking it's a pick-up, is just go up to them, put your eyebrows together in a suspicious look and ask:

"Who are you?"

Then she'll give you her name and everything else you want to know. She'll ask "Why?" and you'll comply with:

"Hmmmm... was looking for someone."

Then carry conversation.


thanx...ill try to use that...i love you now :D


as for the other dude...i think ill try something really stupid like that....but not on this girl lol
 
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