"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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litle help?

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ok so i joined this site like a week ago...and theres this girl...i see her all the time when she passes by with her friends and everytime she does we always make eye contact...i want to aproach her but i dont know how because i've never done something like that before..im pretty much your avrage looking shy guy so yeah...any tips?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Read the bible....

Approach.....


Simple huh :D
 

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i tried that...but theres so many of them and theres so much stuff on them too i just forget what i read 5 min after im done...and im not looking for nothing fancy either...just like after i say hi and my name what do i say?
 

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Here's something:

One thing I do to approach strange female in public (twice yesterday), in a way that makes them really curious about why I'm approaching them, without thinking it's a pick-up, is just go up to them, put your eyebrows together in a suspicious look and ask:

"Who are you?"

Then she'll give you her name and everything else you want to know. She'll ask "Why?" and you'll comply with:

"Hmmmm... was looking for someone."

Then carry conversation.
 

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Ooh, if I was you, I would do something rediculous. Like slapping her on the ass twice and asking 'how much for that'. Something crazy that would make her hate me, but would totally rid me of all fear of hot babes.

But I already did that, so come up with something new ;)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by Nex
Here's something:

One thing I do to approach strange female in public (twice yesterday), in a way that makes them really curious about why I'm approaching them, without thinking it's a pick-up, is just go up to them, put your eyebrows together in a suspicious look and ask:

"Who are you?"

Then she'll give you her name and everything else you want to know. She'll ask "Why?" and you'll comply with:

"Hmmmm... was looking for someone."

Then carry conversation.


thanx...ill try to use that...i love you now :D


as for the other dude...i think ill try something really stupid like that....but not on this girl lol
 
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