MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree with you, although I thought there were some good points in the article also. And some girls are caretakers, so I do think those girls will stay with dysfunctional men in order to fill that role.Disagree on the "they stay in abusive relationships to help their partner", they stay with those men cause they turn them on unlike those nice supportive cucks bombing their facebook inbox.
Oh yeah the good samaritan legend of women trying to help men tounleash their potential, funny as hell, I heard it too.The old theory that women just want "a project" or a "guy to fix" has holes in it.
You could just as easily argue that the (low SMV) nice guy is also a "project" in need of "fixing" or a "caretaker." But most women aren't interested in taking on THAT kind of project. Only the bad boy kind of "project."
Why is one "project" more worthy than the other? Because that's not the point. It's a red herring. It's about SMV as WDW says.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.