Yeah...felt like catching your attention, sorry. Um, basically...when talking to a girl, how would you make her remember to call you back. I mean, if a girl really wants you, of course she'd remember, but it's not at that stage yet. I basically want to talk to this girl tonight, and have her call me up tommorow night and then we go out and do something. What could I say tonight that would make her really want to talk to me again soon? Basically, how would I make her the pursuer.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Listen Up
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I've honestly not read every single part o it, but I've read stuff that you might consider applicable to my question. I don't particuclarly like the Gunwitch method, and I couldn't find anything directly applicable to what I'm looking for.
EDIT: And Jerkson, you're a moron. If you read what I posted, this isn't about' call her up, take her out, **** her'. I'm trying to specifically turn the tables in the pursuit so I can reduce the feeling where I'm being the pursuer.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If a girl wants to call you back, she will. If she wants to see you, she will. If you need to make her "remember" then you're not doing things correctly.
What do you mean, its not at that stage yet?
Call her yourself then. If she doesn't want to do something, then move on.
Their is no "magic line" that will make a girl drool over you.
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Um...yeah, this is hard to put into words, but basically, are there key things you could work into a conversation to keep you on her mind. I mean...bah.
I think that's where your problem lies. You don't just give up on a girl if she doesn't have initial attraction. What kind of behavior is that for a PUA? Sure, if she's taking up TOO much of your attention then definitely drop her, but if you're just starting with a target (like I am) then wtf.
Um...yeah, this is hard to put into words, but basically, are there key things you could work into a conversation to keep you on her mind. I mean...bah.
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Within the first 5 minutes of meeting a girl, she knows if she wants to f*ck you or not. Chances are, if she has no attraction now, she probably won't.
If a girl isn't interested, next her, and move on. An AFC would hang around hoping for something to happen.
You should read the bible.
What kind of behavior is this?
Within the first 5 minutes of meeting a girl, she knows if she wants to f*ck you or not. Chances are, if she has no attraction now, she probably won't.
If a girl isn't interested, next her, and move on. An AFC would hang around hoping for something to happen.
You should read the bible.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Master Don Juan
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..quite honestly , girls know by just looking at you and it's really in that instant.
BUT things like social proof, social value,high status are all things
that up ones attractiveness- even if she wasn't initially.
..quite honestly , girls know by just looking at you and it's really in that instant.
BUT things like social proof, social value,high status are all things
that up ones attractiveness- even if she wasn't initially.
lol thanks JC
!! Didn't think you cared so much about me. But all the moanin and gronin he doing is for the right reasons !. Anyways I don't know why I said that but don't FLAME me plz :-(!... So anyways back to my DJ bible reading :woo: :woo: :cheer: :cheer: (who knew reading was so fun )