"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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List physical locations that you've had luck finding dates

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Let's make a list of places around your town/city that you have had luck approaching new women BY YOURSELF. Obviously women are everywhere, but there are some places that are more conducive to the logistics of an approach.

For instance, it is socially acceptable/not creepy (by a woman's standards) for a guy to go to Starbucks by himself and get a cup of coffee/bring a laptop to do work, and "coincidentally" sit across from a dime and strike up a conversation. This also works well because she's more likely to be away from her friends.

Likewise, meeting a girl on the street is not as good (although possible), because best case scenario you'll swap numbers after a very short period and won't get a chance to build up rapport.

What are some other good places to start, OTHER than bars/clubs.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Drdeee said:
I originally thought this wasn't a problem, but it might be to some degree. Still, how does a busy working guy who goes straight from home to work to home come in contact with more girls? What are some good hotspots? I have a large social circle that loves to frequent bars/clubs, but don't want to date within the group and want to bring girls I've met elsewhere to these locations.

Just thought of this one: busy local laundromat
 

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Car washes. Chicks with BFs don't usually wash their own car.
 

Iceberg

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Blackmm said:
Car washes. Chicks with BFs don't usually wash their own car.
Really? That's weird.

So you've always washed your various girlfriends' cars?

Not being sarcastic. I'm seriously curious.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yuppaz

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clubs
gym
stores
work (yikes on that though)
bars
on the street
at the mall
getting car repairs
going to the park
going to classes
going to music events
at restaurants
public transportation
airplanes
online (but rarely)
at my apartment complex
at the beach
pretty much anywhere...
 
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