"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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List physical locations that you've had luck finding dates

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Let's make a list of places around your town/city that you have had luck approaching new women BY YOURSELF. Obviously women are everywhere, but there are some places that are more conducive to the logistics of an approach.

For instance, it is socially acceptable/not creepy (by a woman's standards) for a guy to go to Starbucks by himself and get a cup of coffee/bring a laptop to do work, and "coincidentally" sit across from a dime and strike up a conversation. This also works well because she's more likely to be away from her friends.

Likewise, meeting a girl on the street is not as good (although possible), because best case scenario you'll swap numbers after a very short period and won't get a chance to build up rapport.

What are some other good places to start, OTHER than bars/clubs.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Drdeee said:
I originally thought this wasn't a problem, but it might be to some degree. Still, how does a busy working guy who goes straight from home to work to home come in contact with more girls? What are some good hotspots? I have a large social circle that loves to frequent bars/clubs, but don't want to date within the group and want to bring girls I've met elsewhere to these locations.

Just thought of this one: busy local laundromat
 

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Car washes. Chicks with BFs don't usually wash their own car.
 

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Blackmm said:
Car washes. Chicks with BFs don't usually wash their own car.
Really? That's weird.

So you've always washed your various girlfriends' cars?

Not being sarcastic. I'm seriously curious.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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clubs
gym
stores
work (yikes on that though)
bars
on the street
at the mall
getting car repairs
going to the park
going to classes
going to music events
at restaurants
public transportation
airplanes
online (but rarely)
at my apartment complex
at the beach
pretty much anywhere...
 
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