"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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List Of Shaming Tactics That Make or Break You

Diaforetikos

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That sounds like my ex. She swore up and down that she was gonna get dreads.

NOT ON MY WATCH B!TCH!!

And she could talk for days. Nope! Left the ho rea'o quick.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Wilko

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Hey Razor, unrelated to this discussion but I'm curious all the same, you spoke about a lot of stuff in the past tense there, like it was in the (distant) past. Are you in an LTR or just on hiatus from the 'scene'?
 

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A notable shaming comeback from me recently:

Girl: Scars, you are such a wh0re!
Me: I'm not a wh0re, I'm an opportunist!

I forgot where I heard this once, but I always thought it was pretty clever.
 

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HeyPachuco!

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The days of clubbing a girl over the head and dragging her into your cave are gone.

Its a much sophisticated ballgame.

Trader is spot on.

Phone, Online and Text = Saftey, comfort zone, insurance to act uppity, brave and higher rejection frequency.

Approaching, face-to-face and social gathering = kitten-persona, everything sweet, ditzy, innocent and less readily to reject.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm a little embarrassed that this hasn't been mentioned, but what if a girl asks if you're gay?

THis has happened to me twice, both times with HB9s that were pretty into me--I thought--and I wasn't escalating strongly enough. Or I thought I was escalating pretty well, but obviously not as much as they wanted/expected. What I concluded is that the really hot girls are so used to guys falling over themselves giving her sh*tloads of attention, when I act comfortable with myself it confuses them..

So when a girl later asks you--"Are you gay?" (meaning I didn't escalate enough, or I DID escalate but apparently only gay guys are confident to get a girl to sit on your lap?)
I took it pretty disrespectfully, but calmy said, "No, are you?" (of course she gave me the opportunity to mess w/ her, saying 'lol I mostly like boys,' to which I replied 'Mostly! Wow so you arent afraid to try girls out thats getting me pretty hot and bothered')

I dont really know how to retort to this, I guess I'm pretty passive with hot slices of meat where I should be more aggressive. If you avoid passiveness you avoid getting asked that I guess?
 
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