List Of Shaming Tactics That Make or Break You

[Diaforetikos]

That sounds like my ex. She swore up and down that she was gonna get dreads.

NOT ON MY WATCH B!TCH!!

And she could talk for days. Nope! Left the ho rea'o quick.

 

[Wilko]

Hey Razor, unrelated to this discussion but I'm curious all the same, you spoke about a lot of stuff in the past tense there, like it was in the (distant) past. Are you in an LTR or just on hiatus from the 'scene'?

 

[Scars]

A notable shaming comeback from me recently:

Girl: Scars, you are such a wh0re!
Me: I'm not a wh0re, I'm an opportunist!

I forgot where I heard this once, but I always thought it was pretty clever.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Blame, shame, etc

There´s a book called EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL. It teaches us how to deal with shaming and blaming tactics. I highly recommend it!

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You
http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Bla...=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1282653810&sr=8-1

 

[HeyPachuco!]

The days of clubbing a girl over the head and dragging her into your cave are gone.

Its a much sophisticated ballgame.

Trader is spot on.

Phone, Online and Text = Saftey, comfort zone, insurance to act uppity, brave and higher rejection frequency.

Approaching, face-to-face and social gathering = kitten-persona, everything sweet, ditzy, innocent and less readily to reject.

 

[Gears of Led Zep]

I'm a little embarrassed that this hasn't been mentioned, but what if a girl asks if you're gay?

THis has happened to me twice, both times with HB9s that were pretty into me--I thought--and I wasn't escalating strongly enough. Or I thought I was escalating pretty well, but obviously not as much as they wanted/expected. What I concluded is that the really hot girls are so used to guys falling over themselves giving her sh*tloads of attention, when I act comfortable with myself it confuses them..

So when a girl later asks you--"Are you gay?" (meaning I didn't escalate enough, or I DID escalate but apparently only gay guys are confident to get a girl to sit on your lap?)
I took it pretty disrespectfully, but calmy said, "No, are you?" (of course she gave me the opportunity to mess w/ her, saying 'lol I mostly like boys,' to which I replied 'Mostly! Wow so you arent afraid to try girls out thats getting me pretty hot and bothered')

I dont really know how to retort to this, I guess I'm pretty passive with hot slices of meat where I should be more aggressive. If you avoid passiveness you avoid getting asked that I guess?