"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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List Of Excuses Chics Use

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I need help compiling a list o common excues girls give men (in person, online, text,etc)

When women are about to flake, stand you up, change their minds, buyers remose...... they often give excuses. There are a few keywords that tend to stand out..........listen for any of these and you instantly know low interest level and she has no intesions of meeting you . Saves you a lot of time and frustration.


-I'm meeting an "old friend" for lunch/dinner.

-We will have to "reschedule" another time.

-MY friend decided to "stay another night" so can we make it another day.

"we will see, I have not decided yet, maybe, possibly, perhaps, you never know, ya sure, let me ge back to you, I will let you know, etc"

-I was at work, cell phone died, couldn't find cell phone, dog ate your number

-fell asleep, was sick, had a hadache, forgot,thought U said tomarrow, had to work overtime, mom/kid was sick

-I BEEN THINKING............
-I've been going over our converations and.........
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You disappoint me COD.

You left off one of the most famous and most commonly used female excuses.

"I don't know".

I CAN'T STAND ,"I don't know".

I'd rather she just say "no".

I remember one time about 5 or 6 years ago,I asked a girl out,and she said she didn't know....FOUR TIMES.


This was before I had gained a better understanding of women,before I understood the list of blowoffs you have compiled here.

So when she said,"I don't know",I thought she meant she didn't know.

So I continued speaking to her,asking her out again.

Then she said she didn't know a second time.

I still didn't get it,and continued trying to persuade her.

Then she said she didn't know a third time. Now when she said she didn't know the third time,(on the inside) I got angry,but I kept my cool.

So then I told her that if she was interested,then just say yes,then we'll hang out,but if she wasn't interested,then say no,hey,I tried,it didn't work out,and I'll move on. After saying this to her,guess what she said?

She said,"Well if I say no,then blah,blah,blah. So well,I,I...I don't know".


FOUR TIMES she said she didn't know. After the fourth time,I LOST INTEREST. By then,I didn't care. I just wanted the interaction to be over with so I could leave.

This all took place in a restaurant that she worked in.

Three weeks later,I went back to the restaurant.

Now I didn't see her. I didn't even know she was there.

I went to the counter and ordered my food. While I was waiting,I went and grabbed some condiments (mustard,ketchup,etc.). Well,they called my number,I went and got my order,and out of nowhere,here this girl comes almost runnung towards me. She got right in my face,looked me dead in my eyes,like she was trying to pass by in front of me.

In fact,she almost bumped into me. Obviouly she was trying to get me to speak to her. You know what I did?

I stepped around her,and kept on walking. Walked right out the door.

I was like,"No way. No way in the world I'm back through all those I don't knows again".

Anyway,be sure to add that one to your list.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sometimes they just make up completely off the wall bs:

"this guy was walking me home last night and then tried to break in when I was gone, but the neighbor scared him away and now I have to wait for the cops to show up because they are only available on sunday evening in this part of town, so sorry, I can't go"...

This chic got pissed when I called her out on her sh1t. Whatever, she deserved it.
 
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I had a chick tell me "I'm too tired. I visited an old friend yesterday. I stayed over his place because it was a far drive. I slept in his spare room. So I'm gonna have to cancel our date tonight."

I never was able to reach her after that. But hey, he's just a friend so I shouldn't worry LOL.
 
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chics..........they are so ill-equipped to spin plates. GIRLS PAY ATTENTION........STOP YOUR BS.......DATE 1 MAN AT A TIME
 
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I met my BPD ex 6 months after her husband died.

I would get this one: sometimes she would literally be driving to my house, and not show up. i'd hear from her two days later, and she would say "I started thinking about my husband, and I freaked out, and I couldnt talk to anyone for two days.... so I went to my 'friends' house.

I also used to hear from her "I went to the hospital last night." She had medical problems, but who knows when she was telling the truth or not.

I broke up with her over this one, when I asked where she was the night before, (I had just returned from a funeral when I asked her this) "Well, my freinds friend got dumped by his fiance, and he was suicidally depressed, so I took him to the hot springs." (till 5 in the morning, alone together!)

Here is another good one "My girlfriend is really down, so I have to cancel to be with her."
 
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"i've had a really busy day and not i'm tired"

"had to help my mum move" (bad excuse that lol)

"it was my friends mums friends funeral"

"sorry i forgot"

these have been used on me over the past 8 years lol :cheer:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"Depends"

"cos" - THIS IS NOT ONLY HIGHLY ANNOYING, But very DISRESPECTFUL

"SOZ, I forgot"

"Im ill" - HOWEVER, going out following saturday /friday

"I didnt get your call/You didnt ring" - Even if you've rang over 4 times and left messages.I'd rather she said I didnt/couldnt pick up.
 
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old days ="i'm washing my hair"
nowadays = "i'm getting my hair done"
 
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Don't you guys have better things to do than making up a list of excuses?
 
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Whatever the excuse, its what you do next that counts. Anything other than deciding what you want and pursuing it is a chump move. If that means moving on, you do it. No need to 'call them out', get all frustrated and ill-humored.

What do you want? Go get that, do that, be that.

Tictac
 
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How about "Oh I can't go out tonight cause I'm meetin a brother in the hood" You know these birds ain't playin that king dingaling mandingo meat like that...they in love with that athletic magic stick an will lie to they parents, friends, an YOU to get some. Wake up my peeps.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm in the Mood said:
Don't you guys have better things to do than making up a list of excuses?
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yes, but i chose not to do it.Turned out it wasn't that much better anyway. thanks for asking though
 
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One time I got told that she was at a friend's house and was playing Monopoly with her husband

I hear he Had quite the eggroll too and they shared it.

Must've been fun.... not
 
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Fingerling said:
yes, but i chose not to do it.Turned out it wasn't that much better anyway. thanks for asking though
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BAHAAAHA! :up:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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