"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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List of criteria required for a LTR, please add on

exhausted

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Good relationship with father.
Stable group of friends, does not have a new best friend every year.
Has steady girl friends, does not have trouble getting along with girls.
Cooks and cleans, is not lazy.
Does acts of kindness without being asked.
Not a complainer, is not hard on waiters, salesmen and such.
Is respectful to you in front of others especially her family and parents (even if mad at you)
No past excessive drug use.
Obviously low number of sex partners.
No past smoking.
No princess syndrome, or no only child syndrome.
Obviously does not allow orbiters.
Shows responsibility, does she clean up after herself, make a bed, pick up her cup she leaves around, that sort.
No kids, unless the kid is an absolute angel.....

I would like to add one of the biggest red flags I have experienced was my ltr stayed with me 4 days a week for work (one mile drive instead of 50 mins from her house) she used my shower and bathroom everyday she stayed 4x week for over a year and never cleaned it once, not once. When I mentioned she should be volunteering to clean it occasionally she declined, felt I was wrong because she did not "live there". My response was that you live here 4 days a week and can at the very least clean it occasionally or show the respect and effort to do so. Nope, 6 moths later still never attempted to clean it, even if I was wrong you think she would do it because I asked. Nothing. She is gone. You get what you see boys, dont listen to false promises..

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just trying to straighten out my mind...
No need for ridicule..
It's all good
 

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Ok, sorry for my jaded reply, been a rough time re: long term relationships with me lately. In all seriousness you need trust and respect above all the other stuff. Trust me the sex alone will not keep you together. You need someone you can be proud to be with and her with you. A woman that will compliment your life to make you the best you can achieve. These things are the foundation on all other aspects of the relationship will be built upon. Good luck.
 
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