"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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List of criteria required for a LTR, please add on

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Good relationship with father.
Stable group of friends, does not have a new best friend every year.
Has steady girl friends, does not have trouble getting along with girls.
Cooks and cleans, is not lazy.
Does acts of kindness without being asked.
Not a complainer, is not hard on waiters, salesmen and such.
Is respectful to you in front of others especially her family and parents (even if mad at you)
No past excessive drug use.
Obviously low number of sex partners.
No past smoking.
No princess syndrome, or no only child syndrome.
Obviously does not allow orbiters.
Shows responsibility, does she clean up after herself, make a bed, pick up her cup she leaves around, that sort.
No kids, unless the kid is an absolute angel.....

I would like to add one of the biggest red flags I have experienced was my ltr stayed with me 4 days a week for work (one mile drive instead of 50 mins from her house) she used my shower and bathroom everyday she stayed 4x week for over a year and never cleaned it once, not once. When I mentioned she should be volunteering to clean it occasionally she declined, felt I was wrong because she did not "live there". My response was that you live here 4 days a week and can at the very least clean it occasionally or show the respect and effort to do so. Nope, 6 moths later still never attempted to clean it, even if I was wrong you think she would do it because I asked. Nothing. She is gone. You get what you see boys, dont listen to false promises..

Anymore please add
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just trying to straighten out my mind...
No need for ridicule..
It's all good
 

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Ok, sorry for my jaded reply, been a rough time re: long term relationships with me lately. In all seriousness you need trust and respect above all the other stuff. Trust me the sex alone will not keep you together. You need someone you can be proud to be with and her with you. A woman that will compliment your life to make you the best you can achieve. These things are the foundation on all other aspects of the relationship will be built upon. Good luck.
 
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