"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LinkedIn

bmp2cpm

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Has anyone ever been contacted by a woman they didn't know on LinkedIn to connect?

I received a connection from a woman who worked at the same company I did. However, we didn't work at the company at the same time. Looking at her photo, I knew I never met her. She's a very memorable looking woman. So, I thought maybe she's networking. What harm can a connection on LinkedIn do?

I forgot about it and almost two months later, she's asking me about my reading list on LinkedIn. We chat a little and clearly she likes me and is interested. She even said she liked my LinkedIn photo.

Are women looking for men on LinkedIn? I guess it's instant social proof, the woman can look for guys who know some of her connections. The woman knows the guy had to go through a background check and drug screen, the same she had to for the company. She also knows the the guy is a stable earner having access to his career info. Is this normal for women these days? In my wildest dreams, I never thought of a women using LinkedIn to try and get to know me.

On a side note, and I'm not making this up, apparently before she had a "corporate job", when she was younger she did part-time swim suite and lingerie modeling (not the mainstream boring catalog, the sexy catalog).

I just never thought of LinkedIn as a place where you're minding your own business and a former part-time model starts making online moves on you. It's a strange world indeed.

And yes I am married and shouldn't be chatting with her. But a former part-time model, I'm afraid curiosity is getting the better of me. 5String is going to so chew me out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mantis Toboggan

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LinkedIn is not a dating tool. Everyday, I connect with people who've never met me. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. I do this to spread my network, so more people can see my portfolio, and so more recruiters can stumble upon me for more jobs.

Dating sites....even Facebook, I can understand. LinkedIn, man....can we just leave that for its intended purpose.
 

SecondHalf

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BMP, that's funny.
I've not been hit on in Linked In.
Just hit on by an agent but only for professional services :s

Had two old GF's hunt me down there though.
 

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I'm the same with Mantis. I have over 80 clients i manage. Each client has at least 1+ main point of contact (MPOC). Then i have other people i meet at my clients firm that i build with relationships and i essentially i have hundreds of people I'm connected to on linked in. I'm a bit younger than you, 25. I'm not that established. Maybe if i was 42, had a nice title on linked in and also had a good head on my shoulders i can see creepy single spinsters trying to hit on me. Generally its for recruiters and networking/relationship mapping. Women like her will be the downfall of linked in as i can totally see women use linked in to find sugar daddy's........
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
LinkedIn is not a dating tool. Everyday, I connect with people who've never met me. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. I do this to spread my network, so more people can see my portfolio, and so more recruiters can stumble upon me for more jobs.

Dating sites....even Facebook, I can understand. LinkedIn, man....can we just leave that for its intended purpose.
Next thing you're going to tell me is that the supermarket is for buying food, not for flirting with the local hotties.

I say embrace alternative uses. In this case, she saw you, got interested and did what comes natural. Can't see it being a good tool for men, but for women it could be decent.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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scrouds said:
Next thing you're going to tell me is that the supermarket is for buying food, not for flirting with the local hotties.

I say embrace alternative uses. In this case, she saw you, got interested and did what comes natural. Can't see it being a good tool for men, but for women it could be decent.
Great point to the obvious. Streets are meant for walking. Does that mean that all women are taboo whilst they travel on them?

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