"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bmp2cpm

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Has anyone ever been contacted by a woman they didn't know on LinkedIn to connect?

I received a connection from a woman who worked at the same company I did. However, we didn't work at the company at the same time. Looking at her photo, I knew I never met her. She's a very memorable looking woman. So, I thought maybe she's networking. What harm can a connection on LinkedIn do?

I forgot about it and almost two months later, she's asking me about my reading list on LinkedIn. We chat a little and clearly she likes me and is interested. She even said she liked my LinkedIn photo.

Are women looking for men on LinkedIn? I guess it's instant social proof, the woman can look for guys who know some of her connections. The woman knows the guy had to go through a background check and drug screen, the same she had to for the company. She also knows the the guy is a stable earner having access to his career info. Is this normal for women these days? In my wildest dreams, I never thought of a women using LinkedIn to try and get to know me.

On a side note, and I'm not making this up, apparently before she had a "corporate job", when she was younger she did part-time swim suite and lingerie modeling (not the mainstream boring catalog, the sexy catalog).

I just never thought of LinkedIn as a place where you're minding your own business and a former part-time model starts making online moves on you. It's a strange world indeed.

And yes I am married and shouldn't be chatting with her. But a former part-time model, I'm afraid curiosity is getting the better of me. 5String is going to so chew me out.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Mantis Toboggan

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LinkedIn is not a dating tool. Everyday, I connect with people who've never met me. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. I do this to spread my network, so more people can see my portfolio, and so more recruiters can stumble upon me for more jobs.

Dating sites....even Facebook, I can understand. LinkedIn, man....can we just leave that for its intended purpose.
 

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BMP, that's funny.
I've not been hit on in Linked In.
Just hit on by an agent but only for professional services :s

Had two old GF's hunt me down there though.
 

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I'm the same with Mantis. I have over 80 clients i manage. Each client has at least 1+ main point of contact (MPOC). Then i have other people i meet at my clients firm that i build with relationships and i essentially i have hundreds of people I'm connected to on linked in. I'm a bit younger than you, 25. I'm not that established. Maybe if i was 42, had a nice title on linked in and also had a good head on my shoulders i can see creepy single spinsters trying to hit on me. Generally its for recruiters and networking/relationship mapping. Women like her will be the downfall of linked in as i can totally see women use linked in to find sugar daddy's........
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
LinkedIn is not a dating tool. Everyday, I connect with people who've never met me. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. I do this to spread my network, so more people can see my portfolio, and so more recruiters can stumble upon me for more jobs.

Dating sites....even Facebook, I can understand. LinkedIn, man....can we just leave that for its intended purpose.
Next thing you're going to tell me is that the supermarket is for buying food, not for flirting with the local hotties.

I say embrace alternative uses. In this case, she saw you, got interested and did what comes natural. Can't see it being a good tool for men, but for women it could be decent.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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scrouds said:
Next thing you're going to tell me is that the supermarket is for buying food, not for flirting with the local hotties.

I say embrace alternative uses. In this case, she saw you, got interested and did what comes natural. Can't see it being a good tool for men, but for women it could be decent.
Great point to the obvious. Streets are meant for walking. Does that mean that all women are taboo whilst they travel on them?

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