"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LinkedIn

bmp2cpm

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Has anyone ever been contacted by a woman they didn't know on LinkedIn to connect?

I received a connection from a woman who worked at the same company I did. However, we didn't work at the company at the same time. Looking at her photo, I knew I never met her. She's a very memorable looking woman. So, I thought maybe she's networking. What harm can a connection on LinkedIn do?

I forgot about it and almost two months later, she's asking me about my reading list on LinkedIn. We chat a little and clearly she likes me and is interested. She even said she liked my LinkedIn photo.

Are women looking for men on LinkedIn? I guess it's instant social proof, the woman can look for guys who know some of her connections. The woman knows the guy had to go through a background check and drug screen, the same she had to for the company. She also knows the the guy is a stable earner having access to his career info. Is this normal for women these days? In my wildest dreams, I never thought of a women using LinkedIn to try and get to know me.

On a side note, and I'm not making this up, apparently before she had a "corporate job", when she was younger she did part-time swim suite and lingerie modeling (not the mainstream boring catalog, the sexy catalog).

I just never thought of LinkedIn as a place where you're minding your own business and a former part-time model starts making online moves on you. It's a strange world indeed.

And yes I am married and shouldn't be chatting with her. But a former part-time model, I'm afraid curiosity is getting the better of me. 5String is going to so chew me out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mantis Toboggan

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LinkedIn is not a dating tool. Everyday, I connect with people who've never met me. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. I do this to spread my network, so more people can see my portfolio, and so more recruiters can stumble upon me for more jobs.

Dating sites....even Facebook, I can understand. LinkedIn, man....can we just leave that for its intended purpose.
 

SecondHalf

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BMP, that's funny.
I've not been hit on in Linked In.
Just hit on by an agent but only for professional services :s

Had two old GF's hunt me down there though.
 

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I'm the same with Mantis. I have over 80 clients i manage. Each client has at least 1+ main point of contact (MPOC). Then i have other people i meet at my clients firm that i build with relationships and i essentially i have hundreds of people I'm connected to on linked in. I'm a bit younger than you, 25. I'm not that established. Maybe if i was 42, had a nice title on linked in and also had a good head on my shoulders i can see creepy single spinsters trying to hit on me. Generally its for recruiters and networking/relationship mapping. Women like her will be the downfall of linked in as i can totally see women use linked in to find sugar daddy's........
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
LinkedIn is not a dating tool. Everyday, I connect with people who've never met me. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. I do this to spread my network, so more people can see my portfolio, and so more recruiters can stumble upon me for more jobs.

Dating sites....even Facebook, I can understand. LinkedIn, man....can we just leave that for its intended purpose.
Next thing you're going to tell me is that the supermarket is for buying food, not for flirting with the local hotties.

I say embrace alternative uses. In this case, she saw you, got interested and did what comes natural. Can't see it being a good tool for men, but for women it could be decent.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SecondHalf

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scrouds said:
Next thing you're going to tell me is that the supermarket is for buying food, not for flirting with the local hotties.

I say embrace alternative uses. In this case, she saw you, got interested and did what comes natural. Can't see it being a good tool for men, but for women it could be decent.
Great point to the obvious. Streets are meant for walking. Does that mean that all women are taboo whilst they travel on them?

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