"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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line to use for all situations to get me started

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Once i get started im ok but as im a beginner i need something to say to give me a reason to approach so they feel it isnt a pick up so i can just leave if its going bad until i get better at this.

whats some good things to do? e.g asking there opinion on things or where something is
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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you:hi.
her:hi.
you: wow you must have an iv hooked up to you.
her: huh ?
you: cause ive seen your bloody limbs torn off and your head severed and dripping with blood on a pole, and in a pool of blood your body slashed and stabbed in my head all week long
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try this it works.
 

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It depends on where you are and what's going on at the time. If you're at the mall you can ask an attractive girl to help you pick out somthing nice for yourself. Just make some good eye contact, walk over to her and say Hi, my name is, then talk to her. You don't have to say anything profound, just be yourself. Tell her you think she's cute and you think it would be a good idea for her to give up the digits so you can schedule a time to go out and get to know eachother better. Just keep things open and smooth. Have fun with it. I am in a LTR, and I would never cheat on my old lady, but I enjoy talking to women every where I go. Flirting is an art form. Practice it as much as you can. It become second nature after a few dozen times. Practice it on girls that you're not attracted to. Old women at the store, old ladies at work, just any girl that will respond to you if you talk to her. Stay confident. If a convo isn't going well, you can always end it by saying, "well it was great meeting/talking with you, have a nice day."
 
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